It’s getting to be the season of weddings, and of course, weddings mean Bachelorette Parties! Instead of doing the same old thing that is going to leave the bride yawning with boredom, follow these new rules to give her a bachelorette party she’ll never forget!

The first thing you have to do is know your bride-to-be’s personality, likes and dislikes. A wild child isn’t going to enjoy a spa day party and a conservative cookie would be mortified if the male strippers showed up or she is coerced into wearing a “Suck for a Buck” shirt. So, the first thing is to determine where her heart lays.

Start slow. Get everyone together at one person’s house. This is where you can give gifts, have appetizers or dinner and even do mini-makeovers to get ready for the rest of your night. If the party is to stay home for the duration, then make sure there is plenty to do. Party games, movies to watch, food to eat and beverages will be needed. If you are headed out, plan to go to places you normally don’t go and arrange your designated drivers if drinking is going to be involved.

Think outside the box. The most memorable parties are going to involve some sort of activity that you believe the bride-to-be might really enjoy, but hasn’t done yet. The wildest events I’ve heard of involved body piercings and tattoos, but that’s only because the maid of honor was certain it was something the bride wanted. It could be as simple as a new party game, or as involved as going on a mini vacation or cruise. If you have a house party and male strippers are out of the question, bring in a psychic, or some other live entertainment for something extraordinary.

Give creative gifts. Save the bridal lingerie for the bridal shower. Instead, get more risque. Give sexy gag gifts, vibrators or items for the sexiest honeymoon ever! Have some gifts on hands for the guests too. Fun gag gifts include pecker whistles or pecker pens. These gifts can really help break the ice if you are having a party where a lot of the people don’t really know each other that well.

Make sure you plan this event in plenty of time. Make reservations, send invitations, and have the decorations, gifts, and any other details completed by two to three weeks before the event just to make sure you have everything you need.

The most important rule though is to have a blast! Chances are if you are the one in charge of planning the event, you know first hand what the bride-to-be will be thrilled and surprised with. This is her last big hoopla event as a single woman. By adding those personal touches you are going to send her into wedded bliss with style and creativity.

In many long term relationships, one or the other partner stops the pursuit of passion. This leaves the other partner feeling uncared for, unloved, and frankly pretty pissed off.  Sex and affection is the first thing that goes. The upset person may be uncomplaining, but the excuses to avoid intimacy start coming up more and more often.

In turn, the other person either starts complaining about the lack of sex, or begins to create distance themselves in response. Pretty soon there is a wide chasm between you, filled probably with misunderstandings, resentments, and unfulfilled needs coming from both parties.  This is where your relationship can become vulnerable to affairs, or become damaged to the point that you aren’t sure if you can continue on together.

To keep that from happening in your relationship, or to recover if this is currently happening in your relationship, the first thing you need to do is quit blaming the other person. Sure, maybe they are the ones distancing themselves from you and avoiding sex. But are you absolutely sure it’s not because of other unaddressed issues between the two of you?

Take this self-inventory and be brutally honest with yourself. If you feel you are falling short in any of these areas, then you might want to get to work on improving these points. If you feel you are doing everything perfectly, then skip this part and tell your partner what a selfish jerk they are, but chances are, you have your own part to play in this whether you want to admit it or not.

Self Inventory

• Do you take time to connect with your partner every day?

• Do you ask them how they are and really listen to them every day?

• Do you look to see how you can be of help in your partners life or your shared domestic life, if not every day, then at least almost every day?

• Do you do your fair share of domestic duties? If you both work equal hours outside the house, then you need to pitch in equal hours with the house and children too.

• If your partner shares your feelings with you, do you respect them and value what they have to say?  Remember respecting them is not the same as agreeing with them.  Or, do you put them down, dismiss them, argue with them, and/or criticize them?

• Do you pursue some sort of affection every day? (Not just a swat at their ass when they walk by you either, some real affection like a ten second hug or passionate kiss….)

• Are you putting your partner/spouse first and most important in your life? Your partner should come before the children, before other family members, and before anyone else in the rest of the world.  Anything else is not honoring them as your true life partner, they quite simply must come first.

• Do you include them in on decisions and keep them up to date with what is going on in your life?

• Do you freely, and KINDLY share your feelings with them?

• Do you approach issues without finger pointing blaming, accusing, or yelling?

• Are you honestly doing your best to keep your partner swept off their feet with romantic gestures?

Those are some hard questions aren’t they? They are some of the most important points in keeping your love alive though. Make it a point to start to improve on those points and keep this self-inventory as a reminder to you about what you are supposed to do.

In the overall scheme of things, it’s the small daily reminders of love and romance that keep the passion alive. Sure, the grand extravagant statements are wonderful, but if you only dole those out a couple times a year, your partner is probably on a starvation love diet and craving for more.

It is the small daily loving gestures and honest efforts in being a helpful life partner that take careful practice and diligence. It can sometimes seem harder than it sounds even though this is about doing things for the person that is supposed to be the love of your life.

But, do your own part anyway and start doing it today! Chances are your relationship will make a huge turn for the better as your partner starts to feel that they are once again appreciated and desired by you.

We are busy, busy people.  We have kids, work, a home to take care of.   Some of us have hobbies, church or social functions, pets, the list just seems to go on and on.  Somewhere along the way, all those “things” lead up to an extremely high number of people suffering the effects of stress and sleep deprivation.  We look at our beloved partner and they have slid down the list from our “Number One” to our “Number, when I get around to it”.

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