Anal sex is still a controversial subject and there are many misunderstandings. Before we talk about how to do anal sex, let’s talk about what it is and what it is not.

1. Anal sex is not just for gay men.
2. Straight men enjoy anal stimulation; it does not mean they have gay tendencies.
3. Anal sex should never hurt.
4. Anal sex will not permanently stretch your anus out.
5. Anal sex can be very pleasurable and many people enjoy this form of sex play.

Make sure you talk with your partner about having anal sex to make sure they are comfortable with it. If you both want to give it a try then here are some tips to get you started:

1. Make sure your partner is very relaxed. You might want to start with a massage.
2. The easiest position to start with is to have your partner lay on his/her stomach with a pillow under their hips for a slight elevation.
3. I fully recommend starting with the “Finger in the Ace Kit”, it comes with three finger condoms and two generous samples of anal lube making it easy and safe, and it increases the likelihood of a fulfilling anal experience from the very first time. Finger condoms are important as most people fingers are too rough to be comfortable in such a highly sensitive area, the finger condoms, or even a regular condom over your finger will provide smoothness where it’s needed most.
4. Make sure you have lots of lube on hand; there is no such thing as too much! An excellent one for beginners is Seymore Butt’s Toyz Tushy Tamer.
5. See how it goes with manual stimulation of this area. If all goes well, then your partner might be ready for more penetration.
6. Make sure your partner stays aroused. Using a vibrator or your hands on their genitals might help them stay excited and help them overcome tension should it arise.
7. Most importantly, go slowly and stay gentle.