The skin is the largest organ in the body, and is often the most overlooked during our sensual play.  We focus on kissing and fondling erotic “hot spots”, but how often do you just enjoy the skin you’re in, or take full pleasure in stimulating your partners skin?

There are literally endless ideas about how you can completely melt your partner into begging for sweet sexual release, without a single kiss and without the usual foreplay activities that are tried, true, and sometimes a bit of a bore if that’s the only thing you are doing to excite your partner.

Stimulating your partner’s skin can relax, excite and even enhance their health!  You can increase their circulation in their skin making each touch exquisitely sensitive and erotic.  There are so many options from the lightest of touches from a feather, a silk scarf, or even your fingertips brushing lightly all over your partner’s body to more intense stimulation.

The word “abrasion” is used a term used in BDSM scenes for some forms of skin play.  Items used for this can be anything from a kitchen scrub brush, to “nettles” which is a plant that has a stinging sensation when rubbed on the body.  If you are interested in exploring more intense skin stimulation, talk to your partner about what they are willing to do, or have done to them first.

If you both agree to try more intense abrasion, then make sure you are in agreement in regard to what parts of the body are okay to “play” with, and what items are acceptable to use.  Remember good aftercare practices if you are going to get extreme, it’s simply good etiquette!  A cool damp washcloth to help cool the skin down, or even first aid cream and band-aids for more intense play are all good ideas to have on hand.  Make sure you both respect the safe word and stop immediately if one or the other of you invoke it.

A great way to experience skin play is start with giving your partner some good visual stimulation.  Approach them in your finest silky or leather lingerie and give them a good look at how fabulous you look.  Then, blindfold them.  They will have the vision of your appearance in their mind, and by cutting off visual stimulation, you will increase the effects of whatever other stimulation you give them.

Once they are blindfolded, and maybe restrained too for some added eroticism, let the games begin!  Take off that lingerie and use it to caress your partner’s body all over.  Now get out your collection of “toys” that you put together in advance and use them on every part of their body.

The way they move, the sounds they make, and their facial expressions will let you know what they find the most pleasurable and exciting.   Watch them closely when you tickle a feather high up on the inside of their thigh, and then softly over their genitals, chances are you’ll see what their “pleasure” face looks like.

A soft nail brush or tooth brush is a great toy to play with too, rub in gentle circles over your body to get a feel for how it might feel to your partner.  Get a feather, the Mini Feather Tickler Vibe, or the Tickle Whip give you many options for sensual play.  A feather boa adds for some titillating action as well.  An absolutely decadent multi-purpose toy is the vibrating hair brush!  You can use it to brush your partner’s hair and their whole body and then flip it over to use the nubby side on them too.

Other items you can use are paint brushes, make-up brushes, exfoliating gloves, the Tickle Bug has wonderful creative possibilities with it’s little “hairs” that tickle and vibrate.  Have a variety of items and try to use a variety of techniques from light caresses, to scratches (Stay mindful of how much your partner has mentioned they would like), to even spankings and “love taps”.  Take your time and allow the anticipation to build of what you will be doing to them next.

Make sure and cover your partner’s entire body.  When you find their “hot” spots, spend a little extra time there and return to those spots throughout your time of “torturing” them.  Remember to get those areas which are usually left alone.  For example the backs of men’s knees are a lesser known, but very erotic spot for them.  Try to get to every square inch of them to learn what your partner’s personal hot spots are.  Save too much attention to the genitals for last though and then really give them a good time there before you allow them to orgasm.

Give it a try and let us know what great ideas you came up with during your lustful experimentations!  We would love to hear from your partner too about how much they begged you for mercy!