When you were younger (whatever that means to YOU), and you were more in lust with your partner, you could not get enough romance and sex!  Your attention was on them and your synergy together.  You had a private small smile on your face at work, in church or temple, and when you were cleaning the house.  You tingled, you sparkled, you felt great.  The anticipation of the next time, the next touch was amazing.

Time passed.  Work and worry about family, finances, whatever now fills a more prominent area of your consciousness.  How did that happen?  Now you get irritated when your partner wants to be intimate, you would rather wait, or sleep, or eat, or rest.  What happened to the sexy, eager, joyful you???

We need to learn to relax.  Breathe. Give ourselves a break.  Men can switch into sexy mode most of the time easier than a woman can, but this article is relevant for everyone.  When you relax. you can pay attention to the moment, pay attention to your partner, pay attention to your fantasies.

Yes, I did mention fantasies.  If you can relax, then your conscious mind lets go of the “real world”.  Your fantasy may just be a dream like memory of a romantic getaway, or it could be a full blown fantasy of an orgy with every movie star that turns you on.  It doesn’t matter.  The imagination can actually cause our body to react, so you can get physically ready for your sexual pursuits through an active fantasy session.

Tantric exercises are amazing.  You can learn to breathe, relax, and stimulate your energies to the point of orgasm without touching.  Amazing.  True.  Check out weekend workshops held near where you live.  Find out what kind of exercises will be done.  Know ahead of time if you will be required to do things in front of other people, or in different levels of undress, before you commit to that particular workshop.  Some people thrive in group naked environments, and others would run out screaming.  Choose the workshop level that will work for you and your partner.

Find out what you need to adjust in your life to be less stressed in general.  Taking a walk, getting more exercise, having someone to talk to about your day, working with a therapist to blast through some issues that you are holding on to, changing your diet (less caffeine?).  Take the steps that are important for YOU.

If you have forgotten that feeling of being in love, or of being in lust - you can rekindle that if you want to.  Plan a romantic getaway, even if it is in part of your house.  You do not have to spend a lot of money to rekindle your romance.  As long as you do not have a problem with alcohol, a light wine can help the mood.  If you are comfortable try toys or costumes, whatever you like.  Be adventurous.  Just DON’T be boring.

I know that by reducing stress, and bringing that spring back into your step, you will be fine!

Written for the Happyher.com Blog June 2008 copyright 2008, Dr. Sally Witt, The Center for Healing & Training, Inc. 215/736-0900

Dr. Sally Witt is a Breakthrough Coach and Hypnotherapist. She has a Ph.D. in Spiritual Counseling, and has a unique background in traditional psychology as well as intense alternative and metaphysical training. She not only provides individuals and families with coaching and individual therapeutic sessions, but she provides support groups, corporate consulting, trainings and demonstrations on a wide variety of topics.

Dr. Witt is also known worldwide for her intuitive and energy healing gifts. She has been a frequent guest on national television and radio programs to talk about her work. She is the author of “Your Mind Holds the Key to Health, Happiness, and Prosperity”, available on Amazon.com. You can contact her at the Center for Healing and Training, Inc. at 215/736-0900. Her website is www.drsallywitt.com. Skype=drsallywitt

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