A while back I wrote an article for men about How to Be the Best Lover Ever. I promised some information for the ladies and this is it! You may want to make sure you’re ready to hear it, otherwise, come back when you have your big girl panties on and can take an honest look at yourself.

• Take care of business. Do you want to be treated like a Cadillac or a Yugo? If you want to be treated like a Cadillac, then BE a Cadillac kind of woman or quit complaining if you aren’t treated that way. If you need to diet, diet. If you need a nice haircut, get one. Don’t go to bed in “His” ratty old t-shirt with a week of leg stubble and think you are going to get treated like a hot commodity. Being a great lover is about taking care of yourself so that you can offer your partner something worth wanting to take care of.

• Get over the good girl syndrome. It’s boring and serves no purpose other than keeping you and everyone around you uptight and unfulfilled. Go for the gusto! Try a little bit of everything. Sex is NOT gross, or dirty and you won’t go to hell if you indulge in a little anal or BDSM, but you might find out you really like it! Still scared? It’s okay to start slow and ALWAYS talk to your partner first. If they want something you aren’t sure you’ll like, give it a try at least once unless it will cause serious body injury. Better yet, you take the initiative, take your man and DO IT. Get sweaty, get loud, make noises (Those vagina noises some of us find so embarassing are actually a big turn on for the guys, so let her rip!).

• Keep the lights on. If your partner didn’t want to be with you, he wouldn’t be. Keeping your body hidden away because you don’t like it is ignorant, cruel, and downright shady. If you don’t like the lights, light enough candles where your partner can get his fill of visual excitement. Wear sexy lingerie and keep it on if you are so worried about what he might see. Lingerie is one of men’s biggest turn-ons being the visual creatures that they are, so maybe leave on the high heeled shoes too!

• Let your man know what makes you happy. He is not a mind reader and shouldn’t be expected to just know what is going to make you happy. Be short, sweet, and direct with your man, they don’t get into details the way woman do, so don’t expect him to be able to follow a long dialogue about why you think you want what you want, just tell him what you want and leave it go.

• Confidence! Having self-confidence is the single most sexy thing a woman can have. If you don’t have it, fake it til’ you make it. Don’t ever start pointing out all your faults to your man, why would you want to bring something to his attention that he may not even been aware of? You are woman, therefore you are beautiful regardless of what the fashion magazines try to tell you that you are supposed to look like. If you are reading this article trying to find out how to be a good lover, then chances are, there is at least one happy man in your present or future who will love you for exactly who and what you are. If he doesn’t, he wasn’t worth it to begin with and there will be someone else that will.

I hope these tips gives you some good food for thought. Being a great lover starts on the inside. Add some respect and appreciation in there for your partner as well and he will never get enough of you. Now, get out there and work it!