Traditionally the story has been walk into bar, see someone you want to get to know, buy a drink and some time, then run your magic. Because of what society tells us is important about ourselves we talk about our jobs, education, and future. That being the ordinary situation one must ask oneself if being ordinary is acceptable. For some people it will be and I wish you luck in this. But for others and hopefully most ordinary is not acceptable.

What are some ways one can be considered extraordinary. Eric Von Markovic once said say one interesting thing and what you said was interesting, say ten interesting things, the person saying those things become interesting. Work on using your best quality to shine and control your conversation. If it’s humor be funny, if it’s intellect be smart, and so on. Once it comes time to leave and you want to keep contact with the person this is when most inexperienced people freeze.

The butterflies that were there when you first sparked a conversation are back and you have to fight that to get the goal. There are no ways to land every number every time or else i’d have nothing to write about. My best practices are as follows…

1. Let the other person give you their number, that way you don’t feel like you look like a creep.

2. Play with your phone a little bit, it will calm you down a little bit as well as put the phone number in their head.

3. If they don’t have the idea say something to lead them on such as ‘it would be nice to talk like this again’ or ‘I enjoyed your company we should do this again.’

4. Put your personality into it, don’t stick to one line or routine the whole time.

Once you have the number you stepped into a whole new world. What are the new rules, and what is the best thing to do while texting or calling? This topic can literally be put into a book but don’t worry I will write a full article geared totally towards texting and calling.

If someone wants a guaranteed better social life then the best thing he or she can do is practice. Go out and start conversations with everyone, attractive, young, old, short, fat, skinny it doesn’t matter. Once you get better at the dynamics of social interaction and conversation you’ll be able to react to people that you want to meet a lot more smoothly.

As always if there are any specific topics you want me to cover e-mail me at atogliatti@gmail.com.

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