Social proof is probably my biggest strong point in Mansfield OH. Social proof is where people know you or have heard of you. When i was in high school I was pretty nuts and people started hearing about the dumb stuff I did (like leaving gym class during a fire alarm just wearing a towel). When I go out to pick up after the opener, I get the name and area of town the target lives in, I do what I can to see if she knows certain people. Such as if she’s from Lexington (a district in Mansfield) I’ll ask if she knows my friend Anthony, Dan, Doolie or so on.

This is a huge thing if you want the target to drop his/her guard with you. Most places can’t do this because bigger cities such as New York and San Diego it’s impossible to know everyone, but once the target understands that you’re universally socially accepted she/he becomes much more comfortable with you.

Things you can do without social proof to make it seem like you are insanely popular are kind of limited. What I do is tell epic-sounding stories. Stories that show a strong and good characteristic that you have and feel like it should be portrayed are the best way to humbly show that you rock. Lately though, I haven’t been polite like that. I find it is better to be loud, a little egotistical and rude. I’m not preaching that assholes finish first but here is a situation that happened to me where I exuded social proof.

I was bored one day when a friend called me up and asked me to meet him at Starbucks. I agreed and made my way there, upon arriving I noticed a very attractive blonde and brunette sitting inside. I made my way in and sat down right next to them.

“Hey, I need the female opinion on something real quick, I gotta get back to my friends real quick.” I then pointed to a huge group of people implying that I was there with all of them. “My friend Bryson and I are having a debate, is it better to approach girls and beat around the bush like ask what time it is, or is it better to just come up and say you look like someone fun and cool that I would like to get to know.” They both responded with it depends on what kind of a guy it is. They said some guys would be ‘creepers’ others would be acceptable. I then asked where I stood. They both said I wouldn’t be a creeper because I came with so many people. This is an example as to how having friends help you with the opposite sex. If enough people accept you and hang out with you why wouldn’t they? On the opposite side if enough people don’t accept you why would they?

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