So its game time, you’re out at a club, a bar, restaurant or a public place with many eligible singles. What to do? In the world of pick-up there are a set of rehearsed opening lines and a whole set up routine that you need to follow. I find that this is not the best route to go, as everyone you know is different. So what are the best ways to approach someone that you want to spark a conversation with? During the initial walk over, approach indirectly in almost a half-circle to their side. This is the less aggressive way and makes the new people you’re talking to more comfortable with you.

Once you do this, you need to hook them with something good. The best things are asking for advice, a half-assed compliment or a story. You can’t just walk up and say any story that comes to mind. It has to be something that either can involve them or someone they know.  The half-assed compliment could be anything from nice shirt to nice butt depending on how balls-y your feeling. Asking for advice is the best as it is non-threatening and involves them. Once you have them hooked this way you can move to a few different social skills. The purpose of the time after the opening line or topic is to show the person you’re talking to why you are better than anyone else they can talk to. Try to stay away from small talk and try to say things that not everyone will say. If you start small talk what makes you different from everybody else there?  Say something that will bring attention to you and shows a good quality or trait about yourself.

Some examples would be interesting conversation, good joke, or small flirting. You don’t want to push too hard but you do want to push a little. You are the best thing there, and they need to know that. This works well with males and females. There is an entire off-shoot community based off of this for males, but they haven’t been able to figure out how to teach social dynamics for females yet. The reasons for this are males are too big of judges of physical appearance and girls who were asked what they want to see physically in a guy said clean shoes. The reason they said clean shoes is because clean shoes shows that not only are you more than likely clean, but you either have money or clean your shoes, which not many people especially single guys take the time to make sure their shoes are squeaky clean.

If you have a unique approach to meeting that special new friend, HappyHer.com wants to know!