When it comes to Kink, the sky is the limit! Many people are very curious about BDSM, which is an acronym that stands for Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission, and sadomasochism. BDSM refers to all of this and more. Putting a blindfold on is a part of BDSM, tying up your lover, or more extreme forms of pleasurable torture falls into this category.
BDSM is highly erotic and the sky is the limit in how you “do it”. Typically one person will agree to submit to the other, this is known as a power exchange. This could be as simple as one person agreeing to be blindfolded and sensually teased. The other person, which is the dominant is the person that agrees to give the teasing. It doesn’t always have to be sexual, but it’s usually always very sensual.
Many people think BDSM is all about pain. Not true. In reality, it’s more about pleasure and an intimate play time based on considerable communication between partners in regard to what is on or off limits. It’s about exploring in a way that can create deeply intimate ties. These ties and excitement will go beyond anything that could ever be experienced with the same old three position “vanilla” sex that many partners get stuck into.
For example, someone may agree to be tied up and spanked, but only lightly and with no pain involved. Another person may want to be spanked until they are red and pushed to their own limit of what they feel they can take from their partner. A word, known as a safe word is typically agreed upon in advance, for example “yellow” for slow down or lighten up on whatever event is occuring and “red” means stop immediately and spend a moment discussing this or moving on to another activity.
So, how do you know where to start? We found this extremely comprehensive BDSM list at www.thebrc.net site that is an excellent tool to open communication between partners and to begin exploring deeper forms of sensual play and eroticism.
We suggest you each take time to fill this form out and share and discuss it with your partner. Pick out some great new Bondage and Fetish Gear items and then, Let the Games Begin! Don’t forget all the fun accessories and BDSM wear available at HappyHer.com!
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1 » How Naughty Do You Want It? BDSM Checklist Porn Paparazzi Gossip Hollywood News // Apr 13, 2009 at 9:04 pm
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2 How to Dominate | HappyHer Blog // May 25, 2009 at 9:56 am
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5 Johannes // Dec 1, 2009 at 6:10 pm
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7 Are You Try-Sexual? | HappyHer Blog // Feb 19, 2010 at 11:22 am
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8 5 Things You MUST Know to Truly Satisfy Your Partner | HappyHer Blog // Feb 27, 2010 at 3:36 am
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