The National Health and Social Life Survey has announced that while 75% of men always reach orgasm during sex, only 29% of women report the same. In addition, most women are unable to climax through vaginal intercourse, instead needing clitoral stimulation.
If 29% is accurate, this is an outrage for women everywhere! Let’s get those numbers up Ladies. The health benefits alone are significant enough to make pursuing them a most serious pursuit. The more, the stronger the better! The Health Benefits of Sex explains these benefits. Improve Your Self Esteem through Sex explains more benefits.
We also just recently found out that women’s IQs will raise with every orgasm that they experience. Imagine the possibilities! American scientists, who continually study sexual possibilities of homo sapiens, discovered that the moment of orgasm creates a very large number of chemical reactions and physical changes in the body. The speed of blood circulation reaches its maximum pushing oxygen-enriched blood all through the internal organs, including the brain, very quickly. This specifically includes the Hypothalamus that governs the work of learning and memorizing centers.
With all that said, let’s talk about how we can get that orgasm average up! Now, while we would hope our lover will be able to magically induce us to climax, reality sets in and we come to the conclusion that we need to own our own orgasm. A much higher percent of women can orgasm through masturbation, oral sex, or other manual stimulation while they can’t reach that big O through intercourse.
An even higher number of women will climax with a vibrator where fingers, tongues, and penis’s alone couldn’t do it for them. It makes sense at this point to get a few toys and start to experiment. Try different techniques, speeds, pressures. Stimulate your clit and discover your g-spot which also helps create some mind blowing orgasms.
Add a little lube as well as feeling dry is not comfortable when stimulating such sensitive parts of yourself. Also, if your clit is too sensitive for direct contact, try to stimulate the area around it instead. Here are some of the favorite toys to use for clit stimulation:
What works for one women, may not work for the next, so try out several toys to discover what really does it for you.
When it comes to sex, don’t worry about being relaxed or “in the mood” first. Just do it. Sometimes sex when you are totally stressed will offer an explosive orgasm and relieve the feelings stress leaving you feeling wonderful. As far as being in the mood, the mood will come when your senses are stimulated.
After you’ve spent some alone time with your vibrator, share your discoveries with your partner. Your lover will absolutely love watching you pleasure yourself and will be able to learn what you need at the same time. If you are too shy to put on the show, then just hand them the vibrator and tell them what to do with it.
Try using the vibrator while you have intercourse and also try different positions that will stimulate your clit at the same time, either manually with your/their fingers, or riding on top or in a position that allows you to rub up against your lover the way you need to feel it.
Orgasms, for health, happiness, and they even make you smarter. You get so much for something that feels so good! I hope you all decide to up your orgasm quotient starting today.
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1 TantricMasseur // Jun 1, 2009 at 4:52 am
Hello, Juice.
I am just a mere male so what the devil would I know about female orgasms? Not a lot from a female viewpoint, I admit. How-wevver, there is one point that I can speak on with some authority. I seriously doubt that 75% of ALL men achive orgasm EVERY time they have sex. I would suggest that it would be closer to the REAL truth to say around 75% of men occasionally don’t achieve orgasm. Enough of men and their orgasms.
Over many years, I have made a pretty fair study of this wonderful function of the human body, the female orgasm. I have even helped a few women achieve them, some of them many times.
Biologically speaking, there IS NO NEED for a woman to have an orgasm, or even to experience pleasure, for her to conceive. If conception was the ONLY reason for having sex, then there would be no need for a woman to experience pleasure from sex.
BUT, we all KNOW that women do experience pleasure from sex, so it stands to reason that there has to be some purpose behind it. What might that purpose be?
I actually think there are several aspects to this question, all inter-connected. I think that the pleasure of sexual intercourse and sexual contact for both genders serves both to encourage them to engage in sexual activities and to help establish a bond between the participants.
That said, there was a prevailing attitude amongst the female members of my generation – pre- baby boomers and baby boomers – that if the man really loved the woman, he would just KNOW what she wanted and needed. How could he possibly know this? He didn’t/doesn’t have her body, her hormones, her physical responses or her emotions.
This attitude deprived many generations of post-Victorian women of sexual satisfaction, simply because their men did not know and the women would not tell, often because they themselves did not know either.
In the last 40 or so years, post-pill, there has been a major change in this area of sexual relations. This change has largely come about because women have been to a great extent freed from the previously ever-present threat of pregnancy. Women were at last in some substantial degree of control over their reproductive functions. This made it a whole lot easier for them to explore the pleasure aspects of sex.
Along with this social change, there have also been others that have given women even greater freedom and control over their lives – and particularly their love-lives. One of these changes has been vastly increased knowledge of female sexual function and the pleasure potential of the human female. This has lead to women coming to feel that sexual pleasure is more of a right than a blessing.
There now appears to a good bit less reticence among young women, and to a fair extent among older women too, to ask for what they want and need to achieve sexual satisfaction. There has also grown an ever-increasing readiness and willingness among women of most ages to choose to move on if a partner is not giving them the sexual satisfaction they have been told is their right.
I would like to put it to you that sexual pleasure for a woman is NOT a right but rather a goal. The potential IS there and it can be realised, much easier by some women than by others. For the ones who find it easy to realise their sexual pleasure potential, good luck to you.
For those who find it a little more difficult to achieve sexual satisfaction, I would say, “DON’T despair.” Keep working at it. Masturbate regularly, either by yourself or with a partner, to help you discover what works for you, your sexual ‘triggers’ and how an approaching orgasm feels for you so that you can recognise the signs and work toward enhancing those feelings. Learn to recognise your body’s responses and what brings them on for you.
There is a particularly good DVD about female sexual healing and exploring female orgasm. It is entitled, “The Best Of Vulva Massage.” It is readily available for sale on the ‘net and through many adult shops.
Even in this day and age, there are still many women who have difficulty achieving orgasm because of some previous sexual trauma. Any method or technique that brings about some degree of healing without making any aspect of the trauma worse is worth pursuing. However, it also pays to be pretty careful about choosing a therapist if one is necessary because there are a number of ’shonks’ around the world. Ask around before choosing.
Assuming that there is no sexual trauma to be dealt with, just keep practising, keep learning about your body and about that strongest of all sexual organs, your mind.
Many happy orgasms.
You have a wonderful day.
Best wishes.
Deas Plant.
(TantricMasseur.)
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