We’ve been talking quite a bit about sex for the ladies.  It’s about time we dedicate some time to taking care of our men as well.  Anal sex play for them is a great start!  Anal sex for men has been a topic reserved for gay men, but it’s for all men.  This free anal sex guide should give you all the information you need on how to have anal sex.

We get questions from many women wondering if their man is gay because he’s expressed an interest in experimenting with anal sex play.  But being straight or gay is about preferring relations with a man or a woman, it really has nothing to do with what feels good.

All man have a prostate, not to mention the other nerves in and around the anus that adore stimulation.  Men are wired and built to enjoy stimulation in this area and prostate massage has long been known for providing many health benefits, including reducing the risk of prostate cancer.  Anal play can give a guy a harder erection, and stronger ejaculations, which I’m sure none of us would complain about that!

Anal sex play can include many different variations.  Whether it’s oral anal sex play, known as rimming, or a finger slid up there to massage his prostate, or many other forms of stimulation, it can be a great treat.  Anal sex play should never hurt, it should be pleasurable and enjoyable.  With that said, let’s get started!

Stay Safe

The first priority in any sex play is keeping everyone involved safe from getting hurt or getting infections.  So take a few precautions for both of you:

• Make sure your hands are clean and smooth, especially watch those nails ladies!  Use a finger cot or latex glove, with lots of lube.  Not only will this keep you cleaner, it will feel a lot smoother for him.
• Only use toys made specifically for Anal Sex.  Too may emergency room visits involve things that get stuck inside the body, so make sure you use toys designed to not do that.
• Don’t push it!  Anal sex should never hurt, it’s about pleasure.

Preparation

Get informed!  Knowledge is power and learning all you can about how to get started with anal sex.  Their are many books, dvds and resources out there.  These articles are also great places to start:

• Anal Sex for Beginners
• Anal Training
• How to find the Man’s G-spot (The A-spot)
• About Anal Beads
• Rent, stream, or buy instructional dvds like Nina Hartley’s Advanced Guide To Anal Sex For Men And Women at HappyHer.com/movies

After you feel that you have gathered all the knowledge you need, it’s time to make sure you have the right supplies.  We’ll talk a bit more about toys, but at the very least you’ll want lube, Moist Anal Lube is probably the best available for this.  Also make sure you have finger cots or latex gloves if you’ll be using your fingers.

Let the Foreplay Begin!

It helps if your man is very relaxed, and turned on.  Give him a full body massage and some foreplay of your choice.  Oral sex is great as you can work your way down and underneath his testicles and use your tongue to lick and swab around the outside of his anus.  Take your time with this step.

You might want to go with very light stimulation and build up to anything more intense over a period of sex play times.  This will give you both the chance to explore what works best and will build trust that you aren’t going to hurt him or push him for more than what he’s comfortable with and you can build your confidence this way as well.  Light stimulations would be:

• Do oral only and push your tongue inside him, you can use a finger cot or even a condom over your tongue if you want.
• Use a well lubed finger cot or condom over one finger and gently slip it inside while you are giving him oral sex
• Build up to two fingers, maybe even three over time as he feels ready for it
• Use a vibrator around only the outside of his anus
• Get the smallest butt plug, anal beads, or prostate massager you can find and slip it inside him during oral sex, keep it inside him for intercourse too.  Make sure you use lots of lube!
• Get an anal probe and slowly move it in and out of him while you stimulate his penis and testicles through oral sex or intercourse
• Graduate to bigger toys if you both feel like it, even a strap on at this point.  Get the ones that have a vaginal plug for your own fun as well.

Anal Sex Positions

You can play with anal stimulation in a variety of positions.  Here are a few of the most popular:

• Him on his back.  Sometimes it’s a little tricky to reach under his testicles to get to his anus, although if his legs are spread with perhaps a pillow under his hips, this can be an excellent position.
• Him on top.  Yes, the vanilla sex missionary style can be great to reach around and play with his butt.
• Him on all fours.  You can lay under him and stimulate him that way, or have full access to his ass while you reach around to fondle his penis
• Him on his stomach.  Put a pillow under him for better access.  This position doesn’t allow for much penis stimulation, but you can get creative with a vibrating cock ring, like the Clit Banger Cockring , or put him into a Hot Lil’ Bitch Masturbator, it feels like a tight vagina around him and will give him something to enjoy while you are also doing your best work in the back door!

Hygiene

Of course staying clean is always a concern in regard to anal sex.  The best thing is for your guy to have emptied his bowels about one hour before your sex play begins.  You can always start with a shower, and their are anal douches or enemas that can be done ahead of time as well.  As much as this is a concern, if you are following the safety suggestions, there is nothing to worry about.

Anal Toys for Men

The Anal Sex Gift Guide will give you a glossary of the different types of anal sex toys for both men and women.  Some of them we suggest for first timers, for men and women alike are:

• Finger in the Ace Kit – This kit contains finger cots, our favorite Moist Anal Lube, and Anal Eaze.  With this kit you’ll be well supplied to begin experimenting with sliding a finger into him to send him into ecstasy.
• Vibrating Anal Beads – they start small and get bigger and the vibrating action will put him over the edge of ecstasy.  This toy also comes with free lube and free sex toy cleaner.
• Mini Anal Tongue It’s small, which makes it great for first timers, and it has a twisting motion instead of vibrations which gives some incredibly hot stimulation.
• Jelly Mini Slim Butt Plug – This butt plug is small, soft and pliable. It’s easy to work in and leave in.
• Kobe Tai Anal Adventure Kit – This offers a selection of toys that are great for the beginner and will carry you through to more advanced play as well.  Comes with free anal lube.
• Any of the Aneros Products.  The Aneros line is made specifically for prostate stimulation and is the absolute best bet to go for your guy.  The Aneros Eupho is great for first timers.
• Moist Anal Lube -  This lube was voted best by Women’s Health Magazine and is specifically made for anal sex.

We hope this guide for giving your guy great anal sex play helps to juice up your creativity for some really sensual fun!  Don’t worry about whether you are an expert at this right away as you will probably have to practice quite a bit.  Your guy won’t mind and will love that you would take the time to do this for him, and you’ll both be amazed at the new levels of intimacy and enjoyment you’ll share when you start to really get into this.  Have fun!