If you are saving foreplay for something you do a couple of minutes before the “big event”, then you are probably missing out on some of the best sex you could ever dream of.  Follow these top ten foreplay secrets and very soon you’ll notice your sex life is going to start living up to your wildest dreams and fantasies.  Not only will your sex life improve, your looks and health will improve too!  It’s an all around win-win situation.  Get started today and repeat daily for best results!

Top Ten Foreplay Secrets

1.  Get and keep yourself in the mood. When you feel sexy, you’ll want to get sexy with your partner.

• Pamper yourself with long baths and sensual lotions.
• Dress in your best lingerie every day.
• Think sexy thoughts, read sexy books, and watch sexy movies.
• Plan for sex.  We keep our lives so busy and scheduled, yet we expect sex to be spontaneous.  Cut the crap and make an appointment for some hot steamy action.  Just knowing you’re going to do it can help keep those juices flowing.

2.  Keep the Mood Set for Sexiness.

• Let your partner know throughout the day how much they do it for you.
• Flirt.  Flirting isn’t just to land that partner, it’s to keep that partner hot for you.  Always flirt.  Besides the sexiness, it’s just plain fun and having fun keeps us all happy!
• Send naughty messages to your partner (Make sure they will remain discreet).
• Dress sexy and look attractive for your partner.
• Keep your home attractive and ready for sex.  A clean home is a sexy home.
• Keep candles that can be lit at a moment’s notice and keep sexy supplies on hand like plenty of lube and massage oils.
• Play sexy music and turn that damn t.v. off once in awhile, it’s going to melt your brain.  Spend some time just enjoying each other and talking about, what else, sexy things!

3.  Remember to Kiss.

• Kiss your partner every day.
• Take time for long slow kisses, you never know where those will end up going!
• Improve your kissing skills by reading How to Give a Passionate Kiss.

4.  Keep non sexual touching a priority.

• Touch your partner without ulterior motives.
• Hold hands with your partner.
• Gently caress them when you pass each other.
• Give deep loving hugs, often.

5.  Talk to each other about sex.

• Talk about your fantasies and things you would like to do.
• Each of the you fill out the BDSM checklist and then talk about the things you both think would be hot to experiment with, and then do it.
• Read to each other from sex manuals and get new ideas to plan on trying.
• Let them know in particular what you like about things they do to you.  No one can mind read another person’s mind, so be open and talk with them about what you like without criticizing.

Now that you have some ideas of what to do before you are naked together, let’s look at some great foreplay you can do when you are finally naked together….

6.  Take turns being in charge.

• Take turns deciding on what sexual adventures you will have for the evening.  Will it involve costumes?  Sex toys? Role Play?  Let each of you surprise each other with some erotically fun playtime.
• Sometimes it’s so nice to lay back and feel sensually spoiled.  Take turns spoiling each other rotten. Give full body massages, kissing and licking is even more while you massage your lover’s every inch when you have a flavored massage oil.

7.  Use Your Mouth Everywhere.

• Give each other oral sex.  Find ways to surprise your partner by using sex candy, ice cubes, or warm (NOT hot) liquid while you give your lover oral sex.
• Spend extra time nibbling their “hot spots”.  If you don’t know what those hot spots are, ask them. Generally the neck, thighs, ears, and feet are the most popular items to focus on though.

8.  Masturbate.

• Masturbate in front of each other.  It’s a great way to show your partner how you like to be touched and is a huge turn on for visual stimulation.
• Masturbate each other.  Take your time and use lots of lube.  Women will get numb if you concentrate on one area for too long though, so make sure you are sensitive about this.  Tantric Massage Instructions for Yoni/Vulva Massage is a great article to learn abou how to manually stimulate her.

9.  Use Toys.

• Vibrators can be a girls best friend, especially if it’s hard for her to orgasm.  Experiement with different style vibrators.
• Use a cockring.  Guys, you’ll get rock hard and keep it longer with a good cock ring!  Your orgasm will be much stronger as well.
• Make it a point to surprise each other with new and unusual sex toys.  Some will work for you, some won’t.  Either way it’s fun to try!

10.  Communicate.

• Take turns teaching each other how to do things as if they’ve never done them before.  For example, tell him exactly how to perform oral sex on you.  You’ll be amazed at how much you will learn when you pretend you don’t know what to do.
• Talk to each other after sex, cuddle and let each other know how sexy they are and how happy they make you when they such great lovers.

If you follow these top ten foreplay secrets, adjust, and add to them, you’ll find that your sex life is going to become more fulfilling and satisfying than you could have ever dreamed of.  Share this list with your partner and watch the fireworks begin!