Sexual anxiety is one of the top reasons many couples fail to have the deeply intimate, fulfilling passion they want and deserve.  Suffering from sexual anxiety can perpetuate itself in numerous ways such as avoiding sex or having rigid “rules” about how sex will be performed.

Sexual anxiety can increase trust issues and feeling of insecurity through all levels of your relationship.  It really stunts the growth of any relationship.  The good news is that sexual anxiety can be overcome!  Feeling good about yourself and your performance with your partner is possible if you are committed to working through your anxieties and this article is going to help!

Reasons for Sexual Anxiety

• Feeling ashamed of your body.
• Feeling ignorant about your partners wants/needs and not knowing how to talk about it.
• For women, having the “Good Girl” syndrome.
• Having self confidence issues.

How to Overcome Feeling Ashamed of Your Body, for Men

Many men worry about the size of their penis.  They hear so much about how “size is everything”, or get bombarded with emails about how to increase your size.  Even average sized men start to feel inadequate.  The average penis is about five inches, fully erect.  That is more than enough to satisfy a woman, in fact the woman is built to where the first two to two and a half inches inside the vagina is the most sensitive and needs the best stimulation.

Girth is important, but too much girth is uncomfortable.  Again this topic has been used against men to make them
feel inadequate for being average, leaving even well endowed men questioning if they really are well endowed or not.

Very few men are smaller than average.  But even if your size is an issue, it’s a workable situation.  If you feel you lack in the area of size, you can easily work your penis out and increase it’s size and girth.  You don’t have to spend money and you don’t have to take meds.

Read How to Increase Your Penis Size to find out how easy it is to increase the length and girth of your penis.  You’ll also learn how to have stronger orgasms as well.

How to Overcome Feeling Ashamed of Your Body, for Women

There is no women on the face of the earth that is completely satisfied with her entire body.  If do happen to know one, let me know so I can find out her secret!

I’ve heard a million comments from women about how they insist on having sex with the lights out and that they never
let their partner view their naked body.  They avoid sex because it focuses on their bodies and that’s one thing they hate the most.

Women, it’s not about how good you look!  Men know that the chances of landing someone like Jessica Alba or Megan Fox in their bed is going to be a fat chance in hell.  If they are with you and the say they love you, then it’s YOU they love.   You owe it to your partner to share all of who you are, and you owe it to yourself to not waste your life hating the body you’re in.

Start to appreciate the small things your body does for you and start to break yourself in to exposing yourself fully to your partner.  If you can’t stand lights on, use black lights or candles.  If you can’t stand the idea of him seeing you naked, experiment with lingerie.  While you are doing that, find yourself a body image coach that will help you put a plan together for you to start working towards having the body you want, or at better yet, loving the body you are in today!

Overcome Feeling Ignorance and Communication Issues with Your Partner

This is a vicious cycle when you start to second guess what your partner might really want or need from you in order to feel sexually fulfilled.  You start trying very hard, so hard you can’t relax or enjoy yourself, or open up to your partner about what you want or need.

Talking about sex is a real problem for some couples.  They are afraid to hurt each other’s feelings, or they feel like
they are just supposed to automatically know what the other person really hopes for.  But exploring each other’s wants and needs requires communication.

The easiest thing to do, is simply ask.  “Honey, would you like it this way, or this way?”, “What’s your favorite thing that I do to you?” “What else can I do for you”.  If your partner seems shy about opening up, then you start the sharing first so they can see it’s okay.  For example, let your partner know something they do that really turns you on and then say “I think this would be exciting to try…..” and go from there.  If you continue to have problems with talking about sex with your partner, seek coaching to be able to become more comfortable in this most important area of your relationship.

Overcoming the Good Girl Syndrome

If you are a women that’s ashamed of that lustful passionate side of yourself, you are not alone.  You might even be getting the message from your husband that you are a slut, or “bad” if you want anything other than the most basic sex. At the same time, they crave being deeply intimate with you and that means coming clean about how sensual and passionate you truly are.

Overcoming the Good Girl Syndrome can really release you from unneccersary sexual anxiety and help you create a much happier sex life with your partner.  Read Breaking the Good Girl Syndrome for tips and pointers for more help.

Overcome Self Confidence Issues

Self confidence carrries over into every aspect of our lives.  If you feel your sexual anxiety is being caused due to low self confidence or low self esteem, then it’s time to start doing something about that!

Sometimes self confidence is all about “fake it until you make it”.  Think about how you would perform sexually if you felt completely confident in yourself, then start doing it!  Sounds easy doesn’t it?  It’s not really, but it’s a step in the right direction.  There are other things you need to do in order to improve your self confidence as well, and many resources that can help you do that.  There are tons of self help books, or search the web for confidence building tips.

Overcoming Sexual Anxiety for Good

• Find out what you need to work on, then do it.
• Lighten up!  It’s okay to laugh, be silly and make some mistakes.
• Have more sex!  Avoiding sex will create more, not less anxiety.  So, do it often and it will help you face and conquer your anxiety.
• Seek help for any issues that you can’t overcome by yourself.  Whether you need a medical doctor, or coaching, help is out there for you to take advantage of.
• Share your anxiety with your partner.  It will help them understand better what you may be going through and can offer support and encouragement.

In summary, overcoming sexual anxiety is about identifying why the anxiety is there and doing something about it.  Stop making excuses and start taking action.  Helping yourself overcome sexual anxiety is going to set you free to open up to your partner in new ways.  You will be able to reach sexual levels you never dreamed possible.