Comments on: Overcoming Sexual Anxiety http://www.happyher.com/blog/2009/09/overcoming-sexual-anxiety/ Sex Toys, Sex Tips, Lingerie and Juicy Tidbits to Enhance Your Erotic Pleasure Mon, 19 Jul 2010 12:30:01 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Jinny http://www.happyher.com/blog/2009/09/overcoming-sexual-anxiety/comment-page-1/#comment-105 Jinny Thu, 01 Oct 2009 20:14:50 +0000 http://www.happyher.com/blog/?p=747#comment-105 Hi, Not sure that this is true:), but thanks for a post. Have a nice day Hi, Not sure that this is true:), but thanks for a post.
Have a nice day

]]> By: admin http://www.happyher.com/blog/2009/09/overcoming-sexual-anxiety/comment-page-1/#comment-104 admin Thu, 01 Oct 2009 13:53:19 +0000 http://www.happyher.com/blog/?p=747#comment-104 Deas, You are right on target as usual! Thanks, and Mavia, trying the full body massage idea Deas offered might help you get more comfortable knowing how much your husband enjoys your body while he's doing it for you! Deas,

You are right on target as usual! Thanks, and Mavia, trying the full body massage idea Deas offered might help you get more comfortable knowing how much your husband enjoys your body while he’s doing it for you!

]]> By: Mavia http://www.happyher.com/blog/2009/09/overcoming-sexual-anxiety/comment-page-1/#comment-103 Mavia Thu, 01 Oct 2009 13:37:33 +0000 http://www.happyher.com/blog/?p=747#comment-103 This is a great article! I think my body is "okay" but I do get insecure about it, especially as I age. I keep thinking, what if my husband only tells me how much he loves my body, because he knows I would feel really bad if he were to complain about it. I hope that's something we can work out during the Challenge! This is a great article! I think my body is “okay” but I do get insecure about it, especially as I age. I keep thinking, what if my husband only tells me how much he loves my body, because he knows I would feel really bad if he were to complain about it. I hope that’s something we can work out during the Challenge!

]]> By: Deas Plant http://www.happyher.com/blog/2009/09/overcoming-sexual-anxiety/comment-page-1/#comment-100 Deas Plant Thu, 01 Oct 2009 06:17:20 +0000 http://www.happyher.com/blog/?p=747#comment-100 Hi, Juice. A VERY interesting article indeed and full of good stuff. I agree with everything that you have written. I would add that communication is the KEY to overcoming most anxieties about sexual matters with a committed long-term partner. If your partner doesn't want to talk about any issues you have around anxiety or refuses to talk, Maybe it's time to question if that person is the right partner for you. Sharing what you are feeling, whether you are male or female, is vital to keeping a relationship growing and exciting. One evening, my partner of the time was laying by my side playing with my erect penis while I played with her breasts. I asked her if she would like it inserted gently and lovingly into her vagina. She replied, "Not too gently, I hope." I THINK I got the message. She looked pretty wind-blown and like she might have just run a mile or two about 15 minutes later. She also had an expression like a cat full of canaries. Re the 'Good Girl' syndrome, if you are a woman and have this syndrome, You need to realise that there is absolutley nothing wrong with enjoying your body, enjoying your partner's body, allowing your partner to enjoy your body, allowing yourself to enjoy your partner's body. allowing your partner acess to your body to help him enjoy his body or with using your partner's body to help you enjoy your body. All this 'Good Girl' crap comes from the Victorian era in Britain and the various churches attempts to control people by instilling fear in them that they might be, or are, sinning when they enjoy sex. The Brits and religion have fair bit to answer for, IMHO. One of the best ways that I know of to get over anxieties and insecurities about sexual issues is for each partner to give the other regular FULL body massages, with BOTH partners TOTALLY naked AND the lights ON. Massaging your partner to an orgasm - or SIX - can be very pleasureable for both partners, regardless of which one is having the orgasm(s). The roles are fully reversible too. Thanks for posting these thoughts, Juice. You all have a wonderful overcoming. Best wishes. Deas Plant. Hi, Juice.
A VERY interesting article indeed and full of good stuff. I agree with everything that you have written.

I would add that communication is the KEY to overcoming most anxieties about sexual matters with a committed long-term partner. If your partner doesn’t want to talk about any issues you have around anxiety or refuses to talk, Maybe it’s time to question if that person is the right partner for you.

Sharing what you are feeling, whether you are male or female, is vital to keeping a relationship growing and exciting. One evening, my partner of the time was laying by my side playing with my erect penis while I played with her breasts. I asked her if she would like it inserted gently and lovingly into her vagina. She replied, “Not too gently, I hope.”

I THINK I got the message. She looked pretty wind-blown and like she might have just run a mile or two about 15 minutes later. She also had an expression like a cat full of canaries.

Re the ‘Good Girl’ syndrome, if you are a woman and have this syndrome, You need to realise that there is absolutley nothing wrong with enjoying your body, enjoying your partner’s body, allowing your partner to enjoy your body, allowing yourself to enjoy your partner’s body. allowing your partner acess to your body to help him enjoy his body or with using your partner’s body to help you enjoy your body.

All this ‘Good Girl’ crap comes from the Victorian era in Britain and the various churches attempts to control people by instilling fear in them that they might be, or are, sinning when they enjoy sex. The Brits and religion have fair bit to answer for, IMHO.

One of the best ways that I know of to get over anxieties and insecurities about sexual issues is for each partner to give the other regular FULL body massages, with BOTH partners TOTALLY naked AND the lights ON. Massaging your partner to an orgasm – or SIX – can be very pleasureable for both partners, regardless of which one is having the orgasm(s). The roles are fully reversible too.

Thanks for posting these thoughts, Juice.

You all have a wonderful overcoming.
Best wishes.
Deas Plant.

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