Many of us have fantasies that we’re too embarrassed to talk about.  Or, we have shared them with our partner but have agreed it wouldn’t be wise to pursue them.  They might be too risky for our relationship, or even illegal.  But our fantasies can be very real for us and the desire to live them out can be compelling.  Let’s look at some of the top fantasies and some ways we can experience them, or at least a version of them.

We have listed the most popular fantasies.  Some fixes that might give each other the experience of a lifetime without actually having to “go there”.  It might also help you get your juices flowing to want to try out some exciting new ideas with your partner.

Threesomes

Having a Threesome is one of the top fantasies for men and women.  Some of them are with one woman and two men, or two women and one man.  Some people pursue this fantasy, fulfill it, and it works out great.  But it’s a high risk fantasy and many couples really shouldn’t take that risk.  The fantasy is still there though, what to do about it?

Two Men and One Woman:

When the fantasy involves two men and one woman, get a vibrator or dildo and use that as the “other man”.  You can name it, interact with it and of course use it for double penetration.  Even more exciting, go out for the evening and pretend to “pick” your other partner.  Talk to each other about what man you are choosing, even pick a name for him.  Then when you get home, you can role play that “Other Man” is there with you.  Sure, it takes a lot of imagination, but it can be very exciting for the partner who has this for a fantasy.

In the case of two men and one woman focusing attention on the man, use a masturbator and strap on to replicate intercourse and anal sex.  If this is a first timer with anal sex, choose a small dildo and use plenty of lube.

Two Women and One Man:

The same scenerio as above applies for two women and one man, but you’ll use a masturbator in place of the other woman.  Use the masturbator to replicate intercourse while you orally pleasure the man, or sit on his face and use the masturbator on him.

In the case of one man and one woman focusing on one woman you can use a clit licker toy to simulate oral sex while you are having intercourse.

For either of these scenerios, you can also use a blow up doll for some even more realistic fantasy play.

Rape Fantasies

Many women have fantasies of being overcome by a sexy stranger and being rape into sexual abadonment.  This fantasy can be fulfilled with role play.  Find a scenerio and play it out.  It could be a “burglar” that breaks into the bedroom while “she” is alone for the night.  It could be a “service man” or “deliveryman” coming to the house in the middle of the day.  Think of how you would like to set up the role play scene and go for it!  Make sure and bring bondage equipment if it’s part of the fantasy.  If the fantasy requires violence, make sure you communicate beforehand about boundaries and stay respectful of those and have a safe word in place.

Sex With a Stranger

Sex with a stranger requires going somewhere out in public.  You can go all the way, with wigs or other disguises to make yourselves look different than normal.  Make up fake names and put the seduction on each other as if you’ve never met before.  It’s hugely erotic if you have a hotel room to go to or even somewhere in one of your cars.  If not then, take your mysterious “stranger” back to your place!

Voyeurism

This fantasy takes a willing partner.  If you want to watch or be watched, unknowingly of course, get some toys.  If you are the one that is watching, have your partner get started and then sneak in and watch them use sexy toys on themselves and pleasure themselves while they “think” they are all alone.  Make sure and pleasure yourself, and stay hidden from view!

Sex in Public

Something about sex in public is a huge turn on.  For obvious reasons, it could get you arrested.  How far can you take it though without getting caught?  This fantasy needs some exploration.  Go to a dark movie theater and fondle each other under strategically placed coats on your laps.  The female can wear a skirt without panties, the man may have to opt for being fondled over his pants, unless you both feel really risky.  Do the same in a restaurant, or dark nightclub.  She can sit on your lap with her skirt strategically positioned to cover up the “real” activities.  Whether you really act this out or just pretend to, that can be YOUR secret!

As you start to really live out your fantasies, you’ll find there are some that are deeply erotic to think about, but in reality, you just don’t want to go there.  That’s okay!  For the others, you’ll find that coming up with ways to pretend to live out a fantasy that you wouldn’t actually go all the way with is an exciting intimacy builder between you an your partner.

Whenever you are working out fantasy fulfillment fixes with your partner

• Keep a sense of humor, chances are you won’t get it perfect the first time of trying, so just have fun with it.

• Keep a sense of playfulness.  Allow yourself to pretend as importantly as you did when you were a child. You’ll be amazed at how you can become lost in a role if you really open up and allow yourself to, just like when you were little playing “pretend” games.

• Fully communicate with your partner.  Her idea of a rape fantasy may be completely different from yours.  Make sure you are on the same page with all aspects of your fantasy play beforehand.

• Use Props!  Sex toys, wigs, and costumes can really lend a realistic tone to your fantasy play.

• Keep a safe environment.  Some people feel really embarrassed about their fantasies, it’s not something they pick, it’s something that picks them.  Refrain from criticizing your partner for having fantasies that you don’t find appealing.

• If you feel too shy to admit to a particular fantasy, write a whole list of them out and then talk about which ones you are both willing to act out.  chances are at least one of them is something one or the other of you have fantasized about.

Learning to play with your partner by using fantasy fulfillment fixes can open a whole new world of intimate pleasures for the both of you.  You’ll be amazed at how excited you’ll become to keep a look out for new fantasies to play with!