Communication is the number one way to learn what each other want and need in bed. But there are certain things women just don’t feel comfortable openly sharing with you. So, HappyHer.com is going to do it for them!

5 Surefire Oral Sex Tips

• Take your time. Women take longer to warm up than men do. It’s not our faults, it’s just how we’re engineered. Going straight for the target is not going to do much for your partner. Instead, kiss her everywhere, linger over her breasts, her inner thighs, whereever your lips trail to. The anticipation will leave her breathless and she’ll naturally be much more sensitive when you do get there.

• While you’re down there…. Tell her how beautiful she looks. It’s important to get that added assurance that you are attracted to what you find down there. At one point someone told me “Don’t they all just look alike anyway?”. That is NOT a good thing to point out and not true at all. Find what you think is attractive and point it out. It might be how she grooms herself, how she smells, tastes, whatever it is, tell her. She’ll be more turned on knowing you are turned on to be there.

• Watch the clit. That’s by far the most sensitive part. In fact the clit has thousands more nerve endings in it than anything on you. Some women truly can’t stand much stimulation there at all and most of us are too sensitive to have direct stimulation. Keep the “hood” of the clit covered and don’t use hard tongued up and down motions there. Go side to side over the clit, suck on the clit.  Start very gently and add more pressure, but not too much. Stay aware of how sensitive this area is, and keep it wet, that makes it much more comfortable for her.

• Use your fingers. A great way to tell how excited she is would be to put a finger just barely into the opening of her vagina. If she moves around to try to get more depth, you’ll know she’s excited and enjoying what you are doing to her. Use two fingers inside her vagina while you orally administer her clit, and when you are orally stimulating her vagina, use the flat part of your thumb on her clit. Again, keep it wet for added comfort.

• Don’t stop! When you can tell she’s reached a climatic stage, keep doing exactly what you are doing. Perhaps do it a bit harder and faster, but any changes at this point will create a break and take her down from that point of orgasm. That can be truly frustrating for both of you as you are almost at a point then where you’ll have to start all over.

When it comes to oral sex, some women love it, almost if not just as much as a man does. Some women are very nervous about it though. They are insecure about the way the smell or taste. If that’s an issue, take a bath together first to assure she feels clean, or try oral sex in the shower with her standing up against the wall. You can also experiment with flavored lubes.

For an added bonus, use a vibrator while giving her oral sex. You’ll notice her orgasm increases deeply when she has the extra stimulation.  Apply any of these 5 surefire oral sex tips and you’ll leave her begging for more!