Edible candles are the newest sexy crave!  These soy candles are fragrant with flavor such as cherry edible candles, chocolate edible candles, strawberry edible candles, peach edible candles, and watermelon edible candles.

The candles are 100% vegan, non-toxic, fragrant, and melt into a warming, silky massage oil.  Eight natural oils including Hemp Seed, Vitamin E, Jojoba, and Almond oil.  The oils penetrate and moisturize the skin leaving it feeling scrumptiously soft and alive.  After a sensual massage, let the oral delight begin!  Your mouth will water as you taste the yummy flavors.  Use two or more different flavors, such as chocolate and strawberry for an even more delicious experience!

For an even more sensual delight, blindfold your partner, and maybe even restrain them as you allow the candles to burn down and drip the oil onto different body parts.  Your partner will be taken to new heights of sensual bliss while you get the yummiest of deserts.  Or, leaving the blindfold on, drip the wax on your own body parts and let your lover lick them off and guess what flavor candle you used.  The possibilities are unlimited.

Candles will always be an item to stay stocked up on for your sensual times.  Stock up on these yummy soy candles today for a candle that will really work for you in a variety of ways.

Anal Beads

Anal Beads are a great gift for someone just getting started with anal sex, to enhance foreplay, and to help set off super intense orgasms.  About Anal Beads article can help you with tips on using anal beads.  The featured Anal Beads:

• Waterproof Flexible, Vibrating Anal Beads - Hit all the right spots with this flexible beaded anal probe. Designed with four sensuous beads and a soft bendable shaft, it bends and conforms to your body’s contours to provide direct stimulation. Use it in the shower, bath or hot tub and turn water play into passion play. Adjust the multi-speed controls and choose a vibration speed that’s comfortable for you to experience how these beads can truly satisfy you.

• Jelly Anal Beads- For the ultimate in arousal these anal beads are top notch. The graduating size in beads are designed to heighten your anal experience with ease of entry creating the most breathtaking climax every imagined.

• Hummingbird Triple Pleaser - Jel-Lee anal beads create exciting sensations and the hummingbird head will make your clit buzz with pleasure. Silk Touch multi-speed vibe lets you control vibration and pulsation.

Anal Plugs

Anal plugs are made to insert and keep in place during sex play for a delightfullly full feeling, they are not for in and out action such as with intercourse.  Remember to use plenty of lube and insert very slowly.  If you are new to anal sex, start with smaller plugs and work your way up to something larger.  The featured anal plugs are:

• Remote Control Anal Plug - If you’re looking for a fun anal adventure to share with your lover, you can’t go wrong with this remote-controlled toy. Lube up and let your partner take control of the remote to send shivers up your spine with the comfortably-sized, classically-shaped plug. Once you’ve had your fun, it’s time for you to be in charge while your lover receives all the amazing anal pleasure this toy has to offer.

• Crystal Jelly Anal Delight - Crystal Jellie anal delight pink is made of soft jelly material that won’t get sticky. It’s the perfect size anal starter item for those new to anal adventures. The Crystal Jellie Delight measures six inches in total lenght by one half of an inch in diameter.

• Graduated Butt Plug - Enjoy the sensation of anal stimulation with this Graduated butt plug. Its hi-tech design, hands-free operation and the ability to vibrate quietly, yet powerfully make this product a favorite amongst even the more experienced users. Did we mention it’s shower friendly? Enjoy FREE samples of Moist Lube and Toy Cleaner.

Anal Dildos

Anal Dildos are for anal penetration and to have an in and out action similar to intercourse.  The HappyHer.com featured anal dildos are:

• Icicles Glass Swirl - Sleek, beautiful, and highly durable are just a few of the features this new wonderful glass massager bestows. Each wand is hand-blown and seamlessly designed for comfort and is intended to be chilled in the freezer or heated up by warm water to simulate natural body heat. The non-porous glass is hygienic and easy to sterilize after the fun. Phthalates free.

• Anal Twist - Twist and turn your way to new anal delights with this 12″ x 1.5″ probe with gradual corkscrew ridges.

• Blush Anal Starter Vibe - 6 inch Ultra Realistic translucent anal starter dong with flared base, thick-veined texture and pink blush head.

Prostrate Massagers

Prostrate massagers are anal sex toys designed specifically for men.  Massaging the prostrate is very healthy and is also sexually enhancing for any man!  HappyHer.com has some of the finest prostrate massagers available.  Here are three:

• Aneros Helix - The Aneros Helix is aggressively shaped and angled. This model provides immediate pressure and tension on the prostate and surrounding area. Destined to become the new standard because it requires less patience and practice to realize benefits. In terms of dimensions, the Helix is larger at the tip (1 1/16 in. versus 0.9 in. on the MGX) and more angled to provide a more vigorous massage. However, the mid-ridge is slightly smaller (1/16 in. smaller) on the Helix. All reports about the Helix have been wonderful! Specifications: 1 1/16 in diameter at tip, circ. 3.34 in. 15/16 in. diameter at mid-ridge, circ. 2.94 in. 1 3/4 in. from main body to perineum pressure point.

• Aneros Maximus - True to its name, the Maximus is the largest prostate stimulator of our Next-Gen line. Similar in shape to the MGX and SGX, the Maximus is intended for those looking for a fuller experience. It provides greater pressure throughout the rectum and is a little more difficult to insert due to its size. Although it is difficult to say exactly which model is best for any given individual, we would recommend this only for more experienced users who are seeking greater pressure. Specifications: 1 1/16 in. diameter at tip, circ. 3.34 in. 1 1/8 in. diameter at mid-ridge, circ. 3.53 in. 1 3/4 in. from main body to perineum pressure point.

• Aneros Eupho - Elegant and beautiful second generation prostate stimulator, the Eupho has the patented Aneros hands-free mechanism. The delicately shaped Eupho has a small head and stem which combine for explosive pleasure. The Eupho offers an enticing, appealing shape that tingles and coaxes you slowly to new sensations and uncharted territory. The gentle curves and ergonomic design allow for gradual build-up of physical sensation to lead you to the next level. Fun to manipulate gently, but probably best reserved for advanced and experienced users who have developed their technique. Specifications: 3/4 in. diameter at tip, circumference 2.355 in. 15/16 in. diameter at mid-ridge, circ. 2.94 in. 1 3/4 in. from main body to perineum pressure point.

This Anal Sex Gift Guide wouldn’t be complete without mentioning to stock up on lube.  You may also want to keep a supply of condoms around to use with your anal sex toys.  This prolongs the life of your sex toy and keeps it safer for use, especially if you share.

If you still aren’t sure which is the best one for you, try a variety kit that contains an entire collection of anal sex toys!  The Kobe Tai’s Anal Adventure Kit has six purple anal sex toys that offer a variety of uniquely arousing sensations, and their top quality design ensures your safety and satisfaction. The Kobe Tai anal sex toy package includes a sleek vibrator (7 inch x 1 inch) with two undulating vinyl sleeves, a slim vinyl butt plug (4 inch x 5/8 inch), an elegant, curved, Spectragel anal butt plug (4 inch x 1 inch) and a luxurious 10-1/2 inch strand of tapering anal beads. The anal sex toy set includes a free bottle of water soluble lubricant. 2 AA batteries required.

Anal sex toys can offer you and your partner a brand new avenue for a variety filled sex life!  We hope this Gift Guide helps.

There is an ad for an erectile dysfunction remedy on TV.  It shows a couple involved in singular activities, yet wanting to be intimate with each other.  He is playing with the TV remote.  She is reluctantly looking at old magazines. Both are expressing non-verbal messages to the other, hoping the other will pick up on them.

The ad says…”once you get the distractions that keep you from your intimacy out of the way…never let ED get in the way.”  Well this article will focus on the articulations that are lacking and creating dysfunction in your intimacy relationship.  Most partners expect each other to “read minds and know what the other wants.”

What if the actors had conveyed their wants verbally?  What if they used powerful clarity in their articulation about their desires?

Let’s take a look at something.  Sexual and sensual expression is one of the most powerful forms of communication on the planet; yet it is one of the least spoken.  We find ourselves learning from books, magazines, movies, and such.  Much of our sex-pressions are hunches and hopes…that we pray we get right.  We want to avoid ruining the moment, yet it happens sometimes because we neglect speaking our specific requests.

Well here is a thought.  Imagine if partners really communicated from their most empowered state of mind in the area of their sensuality/sexuality……WOW what an amazing experience that would be!!!

Close your eyes and think about your partner.  How you embrace them.  How you lean in to them for that most sensual kiss.  Feel the warmth of that embrace.  The soft moistness of the lips.  The sensation of sensuality flowing through your body.  Your nipples tingle, your breasts are warm and a heat flows through you from head to toe.

Your mind is racing with desires….. (“Oh how I wish he would know what I want him to do next…..”)

There is the rub.  You are sensually excited; charged with sexual electricity—and he misses the moment.

You know what you want.  Yet, are unsure how to ask for it.  You wish he would read your mind, and kiss you on that sensitive spot.  You know the one that sends shivers through your erogenous zones.

Unfortunately, you are expecting him to know.  Read your mind.  Be a sensual expert for you…without telling him.

Stop.  Look your partner in the eyes.  Speak with clarity of your desire, and share what you want in your intimacy.  Both of you will heighten your sensual experience.

Most couples dance a non-verbal sensual samba, and miss some beats.  When a scintillating sensual conversation accompanies this sex-ploration, there are wonderful benefits and accoutrements.  Now, of course, there are times when the unspoken message is the ignition for a spectacular sequence of events, yet there is nothing like taking the time to articulate specifically what you like…both to give and receive.

Consider taking the step of expressing yourself with your sex partner.  You sense it can be uncomfortable at times, yet with a willingness to express your desires you will be glad you did.  You know what your head wants, yet if you are hesitant to go for it, the moment may be missed.  So take a moment to be specific in what you want.  When you realize that:

There is Power in the Clarity of your Articulation TM

You will realize that you can shift your paradigms with respect to empowering word choice, and impact your results in a favorable way.  Speak what you want to have happen in your most intimate relationships, and enjoy the results.

You’re thinking a new way, yet feeling the old way.  There is a term for this:  Cognitive-Emotive-Dissonance, (CED).  You know that you want to make a change, and you are thinking in a new way about it, but you still feel like the old thought process is in power.  It is a tug-of-war between your mind and gut feeling.  When you explore this new habit of speaking what you want in your sexual expression, you will feel a bit nervous.  That is natural.  Going through CED is natural.  Embrace it.  The more you work on going through it, the easier your sensual conversations will be, and the more pleasure you will have.

(For more information on Cognitive-Emotive Dissonance, please consult the book Help Yourself to Happiness by Maxie C. Maultsby, Jr., M.D.)

Bob Nicoll is the author of Remember the Ice…and Other Paradigm Shifts.  Remember the Ice…and Other Paradigm Shifts is a comprehensive program that teaches you to enhance your communication skills with family members, friends, co-workers—anyone who is important to you. It helps you stay focused on your task and accomplish more goals because you are conveying your message, and articulating your thoughts in a clear, precise manner. You eliminate confusion and gain confidence in your message and ultimately attract more of what you want.
If you would like to know more about Remember the Ice, please go to Bob’s website:  www.remembertheice.com

Sweetest Day is quickly approaching!  We at HappyHer.com believe every day should be Sweetest Day, but for those of you that put extra emphasis on this day, we would like to help you make it the most romantic occasion ever!

Sweetest Day started right here in beautiful Cleveland, OH, in 1922 by Herbert Birch Kingston.  Herbert was an Ohio philanthropist and candy company employee. He wanted to bring happiness to orphans, shut-ins and the under-privileged. His intent was to show these people that they were not forgotten.  He kicked the day off by giving candy and small gifts. He often used movie stars to distribute the gifts.  Today, Sweetest Day seems to be geared towards romance and HappyHer.com has put together a Gift Guide to get your creative juices flowing!

• Pick out a great outfit from our Lingerie Collection Sets to provide a complete outfit to give or wear for your partner.  Many of them come in one size that fits most beautifully, so you can’t go wrong on choosing the right size.  You might want to pick something from our leather or vinyl collections as well.

• After a delectable dinner, slip into the new lingerie and watch a steamy adult DVD movie together!  Our soft porn DVDs are sure to please and get you both in the mood for a sexy time!  Or try something from our Fetish DVDs if you like to get wild and crazy together.

• Try out some new sex toys that you can both have a great time with!  Our sex toys for couples include kits like the Basket of Love Kit, or the Bedroom Party Pack that is jammed full of toys that you are both sure to love.  Don’t forget the lube while you’re at it.

• For an extra special treat, get a gift certificate for your partner as well, they will love to shop at the store and pick out their own sexy lingerie, adult movies, or toys to surprise you with.

• Remember the chocolate!  The Chocolate Fantasy Body Toppings are a luscious way to share desert!

This Gift Guide should give you some erotic ideas for you and your partner to explore together!  Remember to order by October 10th to make sure your gifts arrive in time!  Or, get a HappyHer.com Gift Certificate anytime, they can be emailed and used immediately.

The last article we wrote about keeping your penis healthy was about doing male kegel exercises.  These exercises will give you stronger orgasms, and will help with staying power.  The muscle that works out is the PC (Pubo Coccygeal) muscle.  While this is an important muscle to keep healthy, it does little to contribute to the overall size and thickness of your penis.  So, continue doing kegel excercises and let’s look at how you can effect the size, shape, and thickness of your penis as well.

The overall size and thickness of the penis is determined by two muscles, the Ishcio Cavernous (IC), and Bulb Cavernous (BC).  These two voluntary muscles wrap around the shaft of the penis.  When they are pumped and contracted, they give rigidity and thickness to the penis and can be excercised to gain in both the size and shape.  Think of them as any other muscle, if you work them, they are big and firm and ready for action, if you quit working out, they still work, but lose their size and shape.  Look at any weight lifter that quits working out after a few years and you’ll see the point we are trying to make.  The penis is no different than that.

For increased penis size, and a better sex life for you, let’s start with some penis lifts, these can be done daily, but I would suggest starting with just a couple times a week and then building up to more as you go.

• Sit at the edge of a chair or toilet seat and make your penis fully erect.
• Hang a small towel over the base of the penis and contract the muscles to make the erection stand all the way up against the resistance of the towel.
• Hold the up position for three seconds and then work up to about five seconds at a time.  Do five reps for three sets to begin with and work up to ten reps for five sets.
• As you get stronger add resistance by wetting the towel or by using a larger towel and moving it up closer to the head of your penis.

Doing these exercises will give you much better control over your erections and help your increase your staying power.

This next exercise is highly recommended and is a 5,000 year old system developed in Sudan Africa.  The young African men were taught this and used it to prepare for marriage by increasing their penis size and improving their sexual skills.  It’s called Jelqing.

The jelq workout should be done in daily sessions lasting ten to thirty minutes.  Before you begin this exercise, and then afterward, you want to apply a hot compress on the genitals.  You can use a hot towel for this, as hot as what is comfortable.  This will warm the tissues up and is important to begin to increase the flow of blood to the penis.  It can also help reduce any pain or bruising, but we highly suggest you avoid getting to that point with your workout.  Try to listen to your body and just do gentle repetitions.

After your hot compress, you want to use some lube, don’t be shy with the lube, it’s an important part of this workout.  Then starting with a semi-erect penis, never on an erect penis, encircle the base of your penis with one hand.  It will be like making an “okay” signal with your fingers around the very base of your penis.  Ensure that no blood escapes.  You are then going to “milk” your penis using your other hand to move towards the head of your penis, forcing the blood towards the end of your penis.  If the urge to ejaculate begins to overwhelm you, then stop this workout for the day and try it again later as you do not want to ejaculate during this excercise.

As you continue your jelq workouts, the spongy bodies (The corpora cavernosa and the corpus spongiosum) will rebuild themselves and begin to expand.  The ligaments of the penis (Suspensory ligament) will become lengthened making your penis stronger and larger as well as the tissues inside repair themselves.  In a few months time, you will notice an improvement in penis size, in the girth and length.  Long-time practitioners of this workout have claimed up to several inches of length are possible.

Penis size is in your hands, quite literally!  Along with the kegel, penis lifts, and jelqing, every man should own a good penis pump.  Using a pump will also help increase the blood flow to the penis and is a great tool to use right before you begin the penis lifts.  For anyone that orders a penis pump, or any other sex toys for men, we will email you a super charged way to do kegels that will greatly maximize your efforts!

The sex education dvds can teach you the Kama Sutra, erotic strip dancing, sensual massages, what men want, what women want, Tantra, or great ideas for sex toys and much more.  They are high quality, produced by experts in the field using real life couples to demonstrate techniques and skills.  You’ll become the best lover your partner or future partner could ever dream of!  They also make great gifts for bridal showers, bachelorette parties and newly weds.

There is a also a large variety of soft porn dvds that will give you entertaining plots such including mystery, comedy, drama, and even a few sci fi thrillers thrown in for good measure.  They are lusty fun to watch and can open up some great opportunities for communicating new things to try with your partner.

For a walk on the wilder side, try out some dvds from the fetish collection!  They feature bondage, vinyl, leather, erotic torture and much more.  These are some great movies to give you ideas for your own explorations into some kinky fun.

Make sure and stock up on a few movies today!

Seek adventure down the yellow brick road, be swept back to the French Revolution, or engage in a swashbuckling duel with the Pirates of the Caribbean.  You don’t have to wait for Halloween to let your fantasies run wild!  How about dressing up as a French Maid and sweep the Man of the Mansion away for a night of down and dirty?

The costumes for men are made to match the costumes for women and there are enough to have an entire theme party with!  Have a sports party and dress up as your favorite cheerleaders, or make it a witchy night of magick with wizards and witches abounding!  Order now to make sure the perfect costume is available and shipped out to you in plenty of time for your Halloween and costume party events.  Accessories such as wigs, swords, and more are available now to complete your costume, and shoes will be available soon.  Stay tuned for additional details!

Don’t worry if you don’t have a special event to dress up for, make your own and send us a picture, by yourself, or with your costumed partner and we’ll make sure and send you a special treat!

We’ve learned for some people, it wasn’t the sex as much as it was the special person, time, and place.  For others, it was about fulfilling hot fantasies that they thought they would never have experienced in real life.  Some included props, special costumes, and many plans that lead up to their sexual adventure, and some of them were completely spontaneous acts of lustful delight!

What is the best sex you ever had?  Please share with us!  For every person that wants to share, we’ll put your email in our little prize box and randomly pick your name on October 1, 2008 to receive a $25.00 gift certificate to help you with your holiday romance and shopping plans!

Whether you prefer vinyl or leather pants, teddies, thongs, skirts or corsets, the tantalizing feel of these materials leave you feeling erotically pleased and gorgeous! There are intimate pieces for sexy playtime, or gorgeous outfit pieces for day wear or evening wear.

Allure leather is based in Canada and due to raising gas prices, and the current state of the American dollar, the manufacturer is being forced to raise prices effective September 11, 2008. HappyHer.com will honor our current pricing of Allure Leather products until that date.

We will also add some gorgeous new leather pieces, including corsets from them later in September, so stay tuned for more information!

When I think of the future
I see you prominently displayed in it
Seeing your figure beside mine
Every morning when I wake up
Would keep me in constant passion
Even that early in the morning
I would still crave to have you
Nestled softly between my parted legs
Your look of sleepiness not lasting long
As I climb on top of you
Bracing myself on the headboard
Gently squatting over your masculinity
Until you penetrate me completely
As a soft moan escapes my lips
I feel myself begin to swell
As you fill me up entirely
I hear you moan my name
Which turns me on even more
I reciprocate my screaming yours
As I reach my highest epoch of vocalization
Realizing that we only have a few moments
Before we must rush out of our house
Our moments become quickened
As our final thrusts become evident
Of our approaching orgasm

Which comes over us like a tsunami

I hope that you have pleasant thoughts
Today while you are at work
I am confident in my assumption
That tonight we shall experience
A new level of our lustful utopia