I wanted to write this article while my fingers are still burning from jalapenos.  This is a must serve dish for anyone that is planning a romantic meal!  Now, the measurements aren’t specific, and please, feel free to option out of whatever ingredients you don’t care for, but try to stick as close as you can to all the ingredients listed.

Orgasm Stew Recipe

Ingredients

• 1 1/2 Pounds Boneless Skinless Chicken Breasts
• Large Can Crushed Pineapple
• Juice from one or two oranges
• Pepper to taste
• Ginger to taste
• Soy Sauce to taste
• One small can chicken broth
• One small can tiny shrimp
• One small can crabmeat
• One chopped green pepper
• One medium sized chopped jalapeno (Don’t add the seeds!)
• One chopped Onion
• Several cloves of chopped garlic

I started early and put the chicken in a crockpot, added pineapple juice, fresh squeezed orange juice, a bit of soy sauce and a ton of pepper as I really love pepper!  Then this slow cooked all day.

I then removed the chicken breasts and put them in a 13×9 inch baking pan and started 3 cups rice and the juice from the chicken (I also added a bit of chicken broth to make up to 3 1/2 cups liquid), and let the rice start to cook.

As the rice was cooking I chopped one onion, one green pepper, one jalapeno, and a few cloves of garlic.  I tossed those in a pan with a couple tablespoons of olive oil.  When the onion started to soften I added some soy sauce and about two teaspoons of ginger and kept the heat on high.

Then I added crushed pineapple, about a cup and a half, drained and a few twists of Himalayn pink salt.  You really don’t need salt at all, or just minimal as the seafood will be pretty salty as is, but the little bit of pink salt that I added gave a great edge.  Next, came a small can of drained tiny shrimp and drained crab meat.  Last was about a cup and a half or so of ham chunks.

I added all of this, except for the chicken and mixed really well.  I then put this mixture over the chicken breasts and threw in the oven, covered for twenty minutes at 350 degrees to allow all the flavors to really meld.

Why do I call this orgasm stew?  Well, you have to try it for yourself.  Serve with some french bread, real butter, soft music and lighting.  Don’t forget the beverage of your choice.   Of course wearing some really sexy lingerie, and little else, will also help “set the mood”.

This is an aphrodisiac packed meal that not only tastes absolutely awesome, but will put you both in the mood for something extremely decadent for dessert – like each other.  With of course a drizzle of luscious tasting lube!

• Use those kegels! This goes for both men and women.  During regular intercourse, use those kegel muscles to thrill your partner.  Ladies, grip your men hard or squeeze tight before they enter, making them work to penetrate you.  Men, penetrate deeply, hold still and do nothing other than squeeze those muscles, the movement inside her will be a surprise she’ll love so much that she’ll beg you to do it again.

Learn how to excercise those kegels for women and for men to get the best use out of them.

• Use that lube! Wet sex is hot, make it wetter by getting a clean shower curtain and pouring lube all over it.  Your slippery bodies against each other in all the right places!  Read the Lube for Sex Guide for added inspiration.

• Eat off each other’s bodies. Break out the whipped cream, fruits, chocolate body toppings and make sundaes out of each other.  Oral sex is so much more exciting when your partner is licking you completely clean.  For a super sexy touch, start at the feet, cover each toe with something yummy and slowly work your way up their body.

• Use those clothes! Undressing is so much hotter when you use the lingerie you are wearing to help stimulate your partner.  A pair of nylons can be used as a cockring (Don’t tie too tight), or to tie your lover’s hands, or blindfold your partner.  A belt can be used to teasingly spank your partner.  A silky chemise can be used to caress your partner all over with.  You get the idea.  Use those cloths for more than just covering yourself with.

• Use the BDSM list. Maybe the thought of BDSM doesn’t appeal to you, but this list has hundreds of ideas.  At least a few of them will appeal to both of you.  Each of you fill out the list and compare notes, then do the ones that you both said you’d be willing to try.  Review the list after you’ve done anything and see if either of you have decided to get a little riskier this next time around.

We hope this list has given you some inspiration to create some mind blowing sex for you and your partner!  Add an idea to this list by adding a comment and you could win a free sex toy!  Random drawings will be held monthly starting in March 2010.

Vibrator Myth Number One:

Myth:  A man should be able to make a woman orgasm with just his hands, tongue, or penis.

Truth:  Some women can’t have an orgasm with less than 3,000 rpm. No human tongue or fingers can generate that kind of vibration. “If the only way that a woman can achieve orgasm is with a vibrator, she’s not broken,” acclaimed sex educator, Tristan Taormino states.  “Think of a vibrator as your assistant, not your substitute. Many couples use vibrators together. “While you’re doing one thing, or two things, the vibrator can be doing something else,”

Vibrator Myth Number Two:

Myth:  You can get addicted to your vibrator.

Truth:  Okay, some of us can “feel” like we are addicted to our vibrators, but we don’t actually get addicted to them.  If you can achieve orgasm without them, you will still be able to achieve orgasm without them no matter how often you use them.

Vibrator Myth Number Three:

Myth:  A vibrator replaces the need for “real” sex.

Truth:  Absolutely not true.  Having sex with a partner fulfills many needs that a vibrator will never hold a candle to.  Emotional intimacy, physical affection from a warm body will never be replaced with a sex toy.

Now that we’ve cleared up some of the myths, let’s look at some ways to enhance sexual satisfaction by using a vibrator.

• Use a vibrator for foreplay. A woman needs a longer amount of time to warm up for sexual intercourse, using a vibrator will help warm her up faster and more thoroughly.

• Use a vibrator during oral sex. Having a vibrator for oral sex can really add some heat for a man or a woman!  Use the vibrator to stimulate her vagina, her clitoris, or anal opening while you orally attend to her.  For a man, use the vibrator up and down his penis, on his testicles, perineum and anal opening and he’ll be begging for more.

• Use a vibrator during intercourse. Most women can’t orgasm with intercourse alone.  Using a vibrator to stimulate her clitoris can really make it happen though.  Also, using the vibrator to stimulate him during intercourse, around his perineum or anal area will send him over the edge of pleasure!

Types of Vibrators

There are so many different styles and vibrators to choose from.  What works best for one person, might not do it for the other, and vice-versa.  Here is a quick run down of some of the most popular styles.  Experiment with the different styles to find the ones that will become your favorites:

• Bullet Vibrators are small multi-purpose vibes that are a favorite to many.  You can read all about them here:  How to Use a Vibrating Bullet Sex Toy.

• Penis or dildo shaped vibrators are created for optimum vaginal stimulation, the g-spot vibes add an extra benefit of stimulating the G-Spot.

• Rabbit Vibes were made popular by sex and the City.  They are phallic shaped vibrators that have an extension on them built to stimulate the clitoris simultaneously.  You can learn more about these at The Love of a Rabbit.

• MP3 Vibrators – YES!  Music lovers love these vibrators.  They vibrate on their own or along with your favorite musick on your iPod.  Learn more about these here:  We Will, We Will, Rock You!

There are also vibrating anal toys, cockrings, sponges, and more for just about every sensuous adventure you can imagine embarking on.  For pictures and more details on even more types of vibrators, check out this glossary.

Learn how to care for your vibrators by reading Take Good Care of Your Vibrators!  Stock up on some lube and batteries and have fun!

How do you Use Lube?

• Pour a small amount onto your fingers and then spread it on your toy, or your partner and on yourself.  If it’s cold, pour it into the palm of your hand first and breathe warm air onto it to warm it.
• Start at the top!  Rub your fingers over the head and down the shaft if it’s a vibrator, masturbation sleeve, erection ring, dildo or penis.
• Start at the clit and rub the lube down into the vagina, around the labia and inside the vagina as well.
• If you find the lube absorbs and leaves you or your partner or toy dry again, that’s okay.  Simply grab some more and start at the top again!

How Much Lube is Too Much?

If you are sliding off each other while “mounted”, you may have used too much!  Most men feel there is no such thing as “too much” lube.  They love the slippery feel, and the sounds that a lot of wetness makes.  So, lube freely!  If you are doing your kegels like a good little sex Goddess should, you should feel super tight and super wet for the best sex ever.

Also, keep a sex towel by your bed.  You can wipe extra lube off. You’ll especially want to wipe it off your hands if you feel like you can’t hold a toy very well with your hands too “lubey” feeling.

How Do I Choose the Best Lube?

There are so many types of lube out there.  You’ll probably want a collection!  Silicone lube, or anal sex lube,  is by far the best for anal sex, water based lube is condom safe and the preferred lube for many other types of sex.  Flavored lube of course is the perfect accompaniment for oral sex.  This article “Which Lube is Right for You” will explain more.

Why Can’t I Just Spit?

Well, of course you can just spit.  But, yeck to too much of that!  Lube lasts longer, is more sanitary, and is much sexier than watching you spit all over the place whenver you need to refresh the wet feeling.

How Long Does Lube Last?

Lube will last indefinitely.  Over time it can get a bit “gooey” feeling, that’s when you know it’s time to throw it away.  Chances are if you are having enough sex, you’ll run out before you have to throw it out.  Of course, lubes come in many sizes, so start with a smaller bottle and work your way up to the gallon sized pump bottles of it!

Do I Need Lube?

Lube makes sex safer and more enjoyable.  Some people create enough of their own natural lube for sex with their partner, but sometimes a little help goes a long way.  You always want to use lube with your sex toys during insertion, for pleasure and to reduce the risk of tearing sensitive tissues.  We highly reccomend it, but the choice is between you and your partner.  If you still aren’t sure, get a small bottle or trial size and try it out so you can find the benefits out for yourself.

Talk about pressure.  Don’t we have enough pressure just knowing our sweeties are going to be expecting something from us?  Besides, any holiday that has a baby with wings, shooting people with arrows, should be light hearted, fun, and sexy!  Save the “Super Bowl” idea for weddings or anniversaries, or better yet, the Super Bowl itself.  Why take that away from the football fans?

Let’s keep Valentine’s Day what it is.  An opportunity to show some love.  Here is a quick guide for some great gift ideas no matter what stage of your relationship you are in:

Brand New Relationship:

So you’ve been dating long enough to be celebrating this day, but not long enough to be too presumptuous.  You want to keep it light.  Here are some great picks for you:

Dazzling Stretch Hearts Bracelet. Always remember that women are like crows, we love bright shiny objects!  This bracelet is adorable and will melt her heart if you put it around the neck of a darling plush stuffed animal.

Team the gifts with flowers and chocolate for the finishing touch and watch while her heart melts!  Keep the roses white or pink, or just a single red rose is best.  Too many red roses at this stage is too serious.

Newly Intimate Relationship:

So you’ve been together for a bit and have just started to get intimate.  You still want to keep it light here, but can ramp up the seduction.  Here are some great picks:

A cute Babydoll would be the perfect lingerie gift.  It’s still on the innocent side, yet definitely sexy and a good hint at what’s to come later!  One of our favorites is a lace and sheer babydoll.

Edible Candles. Set the mood for romance with these edible candles.  As they melt, they turn into massage lotion that is SO tasty.  The perfect way to explore each other’s bodies!

If you are practicing safe sex, stock up on the condoms.  Several varieties are Buy One get One Free.

Get red roses and chocolates to complete the gesture.  Hand feed each other the chocolate!

Fully Involved Relationship:

At this point you can’t keep your hands off each other, or maybe your all ready settled in and should be keeping your hands all over each other the way you “used” to.  The sky is the limit here!  Take your pick of the sexiest lingerie, in fact get her a couple outfits and let her model them for you at her leisure.

It might be a good time to gift her with some toys!  Try one of the sexy games to open new doors for exploration and get her a good vibrator.  Don’t forget the lube.  No matter how long you’ve been together, keeping things spicy is easy when you use your imagination.  Have fun and pick something you aren’t sure about and something you know she’ll love.  This is a great time to try new things.

Red roses and deep dark chocolates will finish this gesture off perfectly!

Kinky Relationship:

Go for something hot in leather or vinyl.  Get some new restraints and perhaps a delicious new collar and let the games begin!  If you want to get kinky, but not quite sure how kinky she’ll go, get a furry cuff kit and tease her into submission.  Or put the cuffs on yourself and let her find you helpless and waiting for her sweet torture.

Roses and chocolates are still the perfect finishing touch here as well.  Deep reds and purples will keep with the passionate theme.

Most Important!  Remember that Cupid is a horny little Cherub, not a Super Bowl Coach yelling on the sidelines. So relax and have fun and don’t forget to treat yourself to something sexy while you’re at it!

Make this the year to give that lady of yours a day she’ll never forget!  Ladies, it’s time for you to start thinking of some special treats for your lover as well.

To help you in your pursuit of love, sex, and erotic bliss, we are offering some special treats to help you celebrate this International Day for Lover’s in grand style!

Everyone that places an order from now until February 8, 2009 will receive a free eBook called “101 Romantic Ideas”.  This book will get your creative juices flowing to keep your romance burning with 101 sexy suggestions appropriate for any relationship from just dating, or old married farts!

Everyone who places an order over $50.00 will receive a Free I.O.U. Game!  This over the top sexy game includes forty-two pull tabs that you can choose to use once, twice, or as often as you like.  It’s so fun and easy.  You and your lover each exchange a hidden I.O.U, and then you get to share your erotic surprises by following the instructions to fulfill the I.O.U. that you chose.  This game is the ultimate way to put the spice back into any relationship!

You and your partner will learn new bedroom tricks and variations on the old tricks with I.O.U.s like giving a sensual body massage, a teasing tongue bath, or a fantasy of your choice.  The variety of lustful activities will keep you hot and wanting more!

Place your order today for a gift of sexy lingerie, some new erotic toys, chocolate body topping, or flavored lube to begin creating a Valentine’s Day that will go on long after the roses have faded away.  You’ll get your free book and orders over $50.00 can use coupon code IOUGAME.  Don’t forget the free shipping for orders over $99.00.  We want to make sure you save some money for those flowers and candy!

Start shopping now, and let the games begin!

Anal Beads

Anal Beads are a great gift for someone just getting started with anal sex, to enhance foreplay, and to help set off super intense orgasms.  About Anal Beads article can help you with tips on using anal beads.  The featured Anal Beads:

• Waterproof Flexible, Vibrating Anal Beads – Hit all the right spots with this flexible beaded anal probe. Designed with four sensuous beads and a soft bendable shaft, it bends and conforms to your body’s contours to provide direct stimulation. Use it in the shower, bath or hot tub and turn water play into passion play. Adjust the multi-speed controls and choose a vibration speed that’s comfortable for you to experience how these beads can truly satisfy you.

• Jelly Anal Beads- For the ultimate in arousal these anal beads are top notch. The graduating size in beads are designed to heighten your anal experience with ease of entry creating the most breathtaking climax every imagined.

• Hummingbird Triple Pleaser - Jel-Lee anal beads create exciting sensations and the hummingbird head will make your clit buzz with pleasure. Silk Touch multi-speed vibe lets you control vibration and pulsation.

Anal Plugs

Anal plugs are made to insert and keep in place during sex play for a delightfullly full feeling, they are not for in and out action such as with intercourse.  Remember to use plenty of lube and insert very slowly.  If you are new to anal sex, start with smaller plugs and work your way up to something larger.  The featured anal plugs are:

• Remote Control Anal Plug – If you’re looking for a fun anal adventure to share with your lover, you can’t go wrong with this remote-controlled toy. Lube up and let your partner take control of the remote to send shivers up your spine with the comfortably-sized, classically-shaped plug. Once you’ve had your fun, it’s time for you to be in charge while your lover receives all the amazing anal pleasure this toy has to offer.

• Crystal Jelly Anal Delight – Crystal Jellie anal delight pink is made of soft jelly material that won’t get sticky. It’s the perfect size anal starter item for those new to anal adventures. The Crystal Jellie Delight measures six inches in total lenght by one half of an inch in diameter.

• Graduated Butt Plug – Enjoy the sensation of anal stimulation with this Graduated butt plug. Its hi-tech design, hands-free operation and the ability to vibrate quietly, yet powerfully make this product a favorite amongst even the more experienced users. Did we mention it’s shower friendly? Enjoy FREE samples of Moist Lube and Toy Cleaner.

Anal Dildos

Anal Dildos are for anal penetration and to have an in and out action similar to intercourse.  The HappyHer.com featured anal dildos are:

• Icicles Glass Swirl - Sleek, beautiful, and highly durable are just a few of the features this new wonderful glass massager bestows. Each wand is hand-blown and seamlessly designed for comfort and is intended to be chilled in the freezer or heated up by warm water to simulate natural body heat. The non-porous glass is hygienic and easy to sterilize after the fun. Phthalates free.

• Anal Twist - Twist and turn your way to new anal delights with this 12″ x 1.5″ probe with gradual corkscrew ridges.

• Blush Anal Starter Vibe – 6 inch Ultra Realistic translucent anal starter dong with flared base, thick-veined texture and pink blush head.

Prostrate Massagers

Prostrate massagers are anal sex toys designed specifically for men.  Massaging the prostrate is very healthy and is also sexually enhancing for any man!  HappyHer.com has some of the finest prostrate massagers available.  Here are three:

• Aneros Helix – The Aneros Helix is aggressively shaped and angled. This model provides immediate pressure and tension on the prostate and surrounding area. Destined to become the new standard because it requires less patience and practice to realize benefits. In terms of dimensions, the Helix is larger at the tip (1 1/16 in. versus 0.9 in. on the MGX) and more angled to provide a more vigorous massage. However, the mid-ridge is slightly smaller (1/16 in. smaller) on the Helix. All reports about the Helix have been wonderful! Specifications: 1 1/16 in diameter at tip, circ. 3.34 in. 15/16 in. diameter at mid-ridge, circ. 2.94 in. 1 3/4 in. from main body to perineum pressure point.

• Aneros Maximus – True to its name, the Maximus is the largest prostate stimulator of our Next-Gen line. Similar in shape to the MGX and SGX, the Maximus is intended for those looking for a fuller experience. It provides greater pressure throughout the rectum and is a little more difficult to insert due to its size. Although it is difficult to say exactly which model is best for any given individual, we would recommend this only for more experienced users who are seeking greater pressure. Specifications: 1 1/16 in. diameter at tip, circ. 3.34 in. 1 1/8 in. diameter at mid-ridge, circ. 3.53 in. 1 3/4 in. from main body to perineum pressure point.

• Aneros Eupho – Elegant and beautiful second generation prostate stimulator, the Eupho has the patented Aneros hands-free mechanism. The delicately shaped Eupho has a small head and stem which combine for explosive pleasure. The Eupho offers an enticing, appealing shape that tingles and coaxes you slowly to new sensations and uncharted territory. The gentle curves and ergonomic design allow for gradual build-up of physical sensation to lead you to the next level. Fun to manipulate gently, but probably best reserved for advanced and experienced users who have developed their technique. Specifications: 3/4 in. diameter at tip, circumference 2.355 in. 15/16 in. diameter at mid-ridge, circ. 2.94 in. 1 3/4 in. from main body to perineum pressure point.

This Anal Sex Gift Guide wouldn’t be complete without mentioning to stock up on lube.  You may also want to keep a supply of condoms around to use with your anal sex toys.  This prolongs the life of your sex toy and keeps it safer for use, especially if you share.

If you still aren’t sure which is the best one for you, try a variety kit that contains an entire collection of anal sex toys!  The Kobe Tai’s Anal Adventure Kit has six purple anal sex toys that offer a variety of uniquely arousing sensations, and their top quality design ensures your safety and satisfaction. The Kobe Tai anal sex toy package includes a sleek vibrator (7 inch x 1 inch) with two undulating vinyl sleeves, a slim vinyl butt plug (4 inch x 5/8 inch), an elegant, curved, Spectragel anal butt plug (4 inch x 1 inch) and a luxurious 10-1/2 inch strand of tapering anal beads. The anal sex toy set includes a free bottle of water soluble lubricant. 2 AA batteries required.

Anal sex toys can offer you and your partner a brand new avenue for a variety filled sex life!  We hope this Gift Guide helps.

Sweetest Day is quickly approaching!  We at HappyHer.com believe every day should be Sweetest Day, but for those of you that put extra emphasis on this day, we would like to help you make it the most romantic occasion ever!

Sweetest Day started right here in beautiful Cleveland, OH, in 1922 by Herbert Birch Kingston.  Herbert was an Ohio philanthropist and candy company employee. He wanted to bring happiness to orphans, shut-ins and the under-privileged. His intent was to show these people that they were not forgotten.  He kicked the day off by giving candy and small gifts. He often used movie stars to distribute the gifts.  Today, Sweetest Day seems to be geared towards romance and HappyHer.com has put together a Gift Guide to get your creative juices flowing!

• Pick out a great outfit from our Lingerie Collection Sets to provide a complete outfit to give or wear for your partner.  Many of them come in one size that fits most beautifully, so you can’t go wrong on choosing the right size.  You might want to pick something from our leather or vinyl collections as well.

• After a delectable dinner, slip into the new lingerie and watch a steamy adult DVD movie together!  Our soft porn DVDs are sure to please and get you both in the mood for a sexy time!  Or try something from our Fetish DVDs if you like to get wild and crazy together.

• Try out some new sex toys that you can both have a great time with!  Our sex toys for couples include kits like the Bedroom Party Pack that is jammed full of toys that you are both sure to love.  Don’t forget the lube while you’re at it.

• For an extra special treat, get a gift certificate for your partner as well, they will love to shop at the store and pick out their own sexy lingerie, adult movies, or toys to surprise you with.

• Remember the chocolate!  The Chocolate Fantasy Body Toppings are a luscious way to share desert!

This Gift Guide should give you some erotic ideas for you and your partner to explore together!  Remember to order by October 10th to make sure your gifts arrive in time!  Or, get a HappyHer.com Gift Certificate anytime, they can be emailed and used immediately.

You can’t expect to make that tiny hole accept something so large as a penis or toy right off the bat though. Training your anus helps to strengthen and make the muscles more elastic like so they will stretch for the sex and then return back to normal without tearing or going through painful penetration. The easiest way is to train is with a partner but you can also do it alone with a graduated toy and lots of lube.

Anal sex must be eased into; you don’t want to hurt yourself or your partner. These tips will help both men and women take care of their partners. For an added bonus, any lover can play with the vagina or penis while training the anus. It’s a wonderful feeling.

Women are the most often worried about making a mess. I like to make sure I’m clean first, go potty, wash, and keep some wipes close by just in case. This helps make a lot of our nervousness go away. Next, get comfortable; put a dark sheet or towel on the bed if you’re worried about a mess which most likely will not happen. Start with some very juicy foreplay. Once the heavy petting gets going so will all the juices in your body.

As her vagina becomes moist and she’s aroused, the rest of her body becomes more sensitive as well. The vagina typically becomes so wet that the juices will drip down to lubricate the anus as well. However, the anus does not have a natural lubricant like the vagina so you want to use a very good lube like, Seymore Butt’s Toyz Tushy Tamer or Moist Anal Lube so everything stays nice and wet. We don’t want any dry friction.

Remember the anus is a very small sensitive hole. Use your pinky finger and slowly push it inside. Make sure your finger is well lubricated and what’s the most amazing is when you have your thumb or other hand massaging her clitoris or penetrating her vagina at the same time. This makes me go wild every time and I know she will be so aroused that the feeling inside her anus will bring her intense sexual pleasure. Many women fantasize about taking it in more than one place at the same time and this fits that desire perfectly.

To make it even better try sucking her nipples or French kissing her too then all areas can be covered, fulfilling her dreams or erotic desires. Carefully begin to go from smaller to larger fingers as you put one inside, turn it a little bit, leave it in until you fell the muscles start to relax and then take it out, move to the next size. Keep moving through all the fingers and then begin using two at a time. She’s probably already had an orgasm by now and is begging for a penis or toy to stick in there. But don’t push it in until the muscles have relaxed and the hole is stretched enough to take the girth of your penis or toy. It takes time but its well worth it. Don’t forget there are many toys that can help you along the way as well. The Licorice Twist in an excellent small tip toy graduated toy for beginners or the Beginner’s Butt Plug vibrates and it’s small. Once anal training is worked on, anal sex will be an extraordinary erotic encounter that you’ll always think of and want to enjoy again.

Going at it alone is another way, although not as easy. Get a variety toy kit such as the Legend Toyz Anal Trainer Kit; there is a very slender one for starting out, and a larger plug for when you’re ready for more. There are even anal beads, lube, and cleaner to make everything easier and more fun. The important thing is be in a comfortable position to use lots of lube.

Tips:
· Wearing a rubber doctor’s type glove makes anal training clean and safe. Once you are done, take the glove off by turning inside out and throw it away.
· Use lots of Lube, Seymore Butt’s Toyz Tushy Tamer, is perfect for anal training.
· Make each other comfortable
· Can be done alone with toys such as the Legend Toyz Anal Trainer Kit
· Play with their penis or vagina at the same time.

Before you begin you might want to get a few items to help. A finger condom or some sort of latex glove is very important to protect you and your partner. Make sure your nails are not sharp or you may want to cover them with some type of bandage pad. You will need an anal lube. The anus doesn’t produce a natural lubricant and lube is the key to making it comfortable. The “Finger in the Ace” kit is one of the best for anal play. You may also want to keep some baby wipes or towels close by for an easy cleanup.

First off have the man lay on his back with his pelvis elevated a little by using towels or pillows to help position him. Then with your palm facing up, slowly insert one finger into his anus. It is extremely important that you use lots of lubricant. The anus is a very delicate, tight area. If your man is really tight and tense push your finger in a little bit and hold it still until his body adjusts to the penetration and then move in some more. You may have to slide up little by little working your way up to the prostate. Once he has started relaxing you can bring you finger in and out of his anus loosening him up. This will help relax all the muscles in and around the anus. When you can get your finger completely inside of him slowly curl it up towards his belly. You should feel a lump about the size of a walnut. This is the prostate, gently rub or stroke it and soon you will notice him enjoying it.

You don’t have to use your finger to stimulate the prostate. It is easy to reach with toys also. The Jelly First Timer Anal Vibe can help find and massage the A-spot. Also, practicing fellatio and stimulating the prostate at the same time will make your man burst with excitement.