• Use those kegels! This goes for both men and women.  During regular intercourse, use those kegel muscles to thrill your partner.  Ladies, grip your men hard or squeeze tight before they enter, making them work to penetrate you.  Men, penetrate deeply, hold still and do nothing other than squeeze those muscles, the movement inside her will be a surprise she’ll love so much that she’ll beg you to do it again.

Learn how to excercise those kegels for women and for men to get the best use out of them.

• Use that lube! Wet sex is hot, make it wetter by getting a clean shower curtain and pouring lube all over it.  Your slippery bodies against each other in all the right places!  Read the Lube for Sex Guide for added inspiration.

• Eat off each other’s bodies. Break out the whipped cream, fruits, chocolate body toppings and make sundaes out of each other.  Oral sex is so much more exciting when your partner is licking you completely clean.  For a super sexy touch, start at the feet, cover each toe with something yummy and slowly work your way up their body.

• Use those clothes! Undressing is so much hotter when you use the lingerie you are wearing to help stimulate your partner.  A pair of nylons can be used as a cockring (Don’t tie too tight), or to tie your lover’s hands, or blindfold your partner.  A belt can be used to teasingly spank your partner.  A silky chemise can be used to caress your partner all over with.  You get the idea.  Use those cloths for more than just covering yourself with.

• Use the BDSM list. Maybe the thought of BDSM doesn’t appeal to you, but this list has hundreds of ideas.  At least a few of them will appeal to both of you.  Each of you fill out the list and compare notes, then do the ones that you both said you’d be willing to try.  Review the list after you’ve done anything and see if either of you have decided to get a little riskier this next time around.

We hope this list has given you some inspiration to create some mind blowing sex for you and your partner!  Add an idea to this list by adding a comment and you could win a free sex toy!  Random drawings will be held monthly starting in March 2010.

How do you Use Lube?

• Pour a small amount onto your fingers and then spread it on your toy, or your partner and on yourself.  If it’s cold, pour it into the palm of your hand first and breathe warm air onto it to warm it.
• Start at the top!  Rub your fingers over the head and down the shaft if it’s a vibrator, masturbation sleeve, erection ring, dildo or penis.
• Start at the clit and rub the lube down into the vagina, around the labia and inside the vagina as well.
• If you find the lube absorbs and leaves you or your partner or toy dry again, that’s okay.  Simply grab some more and start at the top again!

How Much Lube is Too Much?

If you are sliding off each other while “mounted”, you may have used too much!  Most men feel there is no such thing as “too much” lube.  They love the slippery feel, and the sounds that a lot of wetness makes.  So, lube freely!  If you are doing your kegels like a good little sex Goddess should, you should feel super tight and super wet for the best sex ever.

Also, keep a sex towel by your bed.  You can wipe extra lube off. You’ll especially want to wipe it off your hands if you feel like you can’t hold a toy very well with your hands too “lubey” feeling.

How Do I Choose the Best Lube?

There are so many types of lube out there.  You’ll probably want a collection!  Silicone lube, or anal sex lube,  is by far the best for anal sex, water based lube is condom safe and the preferred lube for many other types of sex.  Flavored lube of course is the perfect accompaniment for oral sex.  This article “Which Lube is Right for You” will explain more.

Why Can’t I Just Spit?

Well, of course you can just spit.  But, yeck to too much of that!  Lube lasts longer, is more sanitary, and is much sexier than watching you spit all over the place whenver you need to refresh the wet feeling.

How Long Does Lube Last?

Lube will last indefinitely.  Over time it can get a bit “gooey” feeling, that’s when you know it’s time to throw it away.  Chances are if you are having enough sex, you’ll run out before you have to throw it out.  Of course, lubes come in many sizes, so start with a smaller bottle and work your way up to the gallon sized pump bottles of it!

Do I Need Lube?

Lube makes sex safer and more enjoyable.  Some people create enough of their own natural lube for sex with their partner, but sometimes a little help goes a long way.  You always want to use lube with your sex toys during insertion, for pleasure and to reduce the risk of tearing sensitive tissues.  We highly reccomend it, but the choice is between you and your partner.  If you still aren’t sure, get a small bottle or trial size and try it out so you can find the benefits out for yourself.

Let’s not stop there though.  Let’s start to look at aphrodisiacs that  have been touted throughout history as substances thought to enhance or promote romantic desire and sexual performance.

There is a great deal of controversy surrounding the use of aphrodisiacs as science can’t begin to see the correlation between passion and sensual stimuli.  Controversy aside, if you take a realistic look at the results of certain substances you will see how those substances can enhance and heighten your all ready established romantic or sensual attraction.

Chocolate induces “feel good” chemicals that are released in the brain, increasing a happy mood.  Of course you are going to feel sexier when you feel good.  Spicy foods raise your blood pressure and create heat which is also excellent sexual enhancement inducers.  You get the idea.  Certain ingredients create certain enhancing effects.  That can become a powerful tool when it comes to matters of creating, sustaining, and deepening sensual pursuits.

Nothing replaces pursuing a healthy lifestyle of rest, exercise, and eating right for the highest vitality.  We are going to assume that you all ready know that good health is paramount for a healthy sensual life.  With that said we can begin to look at additional enhancements for the pleasure of yourself and your lover(s).

The true art form of using aphrodisiacs is to encompass all your senses.  Chocolate covered strawberries are a wonderful aphrodisiac on there own, but add sensual smelling candles, soft music, and a comfortably heated environment and you’re on the way to total seduction!

Start to experiment with some aphrodisiac adventures with flavored lubes, chocolate fantasy body topping, edible candles, and even some Spanish Fly if you feel daring!  Drop us a note and let us know what puts your senses over the edge!

The last article we wrote about keeping your penis healthy was about doing male kegel exercises.  These exercises will give you stronger orgasms, and will help with staying power.  The muscle that works out is the PC (Pubo Coccygeal) muscle.  While this is an important muscle to keep healthy, it does little to contribute to the overall size and thickness of your penis.  So, continue doing kegel excercises and let’s look at how you can effect the size, shape, and thickness of your penis as well.

The overall size and thickness of the penis is determined by two muscles, the Ishcio Cavernous (IC), and Bulb Cavernous (BC).  These two voluntary muscles wrap around the shaft of the penis.  When they are pumped and contracted, they give rigidity and thickness to the penis and can be excercised to gain in both the size and shape.  Think of them as any other muscle, if you work them, they are big and firm and ready for action, if you quit working out, they still work, but lose their size and shape.  Look at any weight lifter that quits working out after a few years and you’ll see the point we are trying to make.  The penis is no different than that.

For increased penis size, and a better sex life for you, let’s start with some penis lifts, these can be done daily, but I would suggest starting with just a couple times a week and then building up to more as you go.

• Sit at the edge of a chair or toilet seat and make your penis fully erect.
• Hang a small towel over the base of the penis and contract the muscles to make the erection stand all the way up against the resistance of the towel.
• Hold the up position for three seconds and then work up to about five seconds at a time.  Do five reps for three sets to begin with and work up to ten reps for five sets.
• As you get stronger add resistance by wetting the towel or by using a larger towel and moving it up closer to the head of your penis.

Doing these exercises will give you much better control over your erections and help your increase your staying power.

This next exercise is highly recommended and is a 5,000 year old system developed in Sudan Africa.  The young African men were taught this and used it to prepare for marriage by increasing their penis size and improving their sexual skills.  It’s called Jelqing.

The jelq workout should be done in daily sessions lasting ten to thirty minutes.  Before you begin this exercise, and then afterward, you want to apply a hot compress on the genitals.  You can use a hot towel for this, as hot as what is comfortable.  This will warm the tissues up and is important to begin to increase the flow of blood to the penis.  It can also help reduce any pain or bruising, but we highly suggest you avoid getting to that point with your workout.  Try to listen to your body and just do gentle repetitions.

After your hot compress, you want to use some lube, don’t be shy with the lube, it’s an important part of this workout.  Then starting with a semi-erect penis, never on an erect penis, encircle the base of your penis with one hand.  It will be like making an “okay” signal with your fingers around the very base of your penis.  Ensure that no blood escapes.  You are then going to “milk” your penis using your other hand to move towards the head of your penis, forcing the blood towards the end of your penis.  If the urge to ejaculate begins to overwhelm you, then stop this workout for the day and try it again later as you do not want to ejaculate during this excercise.

As you continue your jelq workouts, the spongy bodies (The corpora cavernosa and the corpus spongiosum) will rebuild themselves and begin to expand.  The ligaments of the penis (Suspensory ligament) will become lengthened making your penis stronger and larger as well as the tissues inside repair themselves.  In a few months time, you will notice an improvement in penis size, in the girth and length.  Long-time practitioners of this workout have claimed up to several inches of length are possible.

Penis size is in your hands, quite literally!  Along with the kegel, penis lifts, and jelqing, every man should own a good penis pump.  Using a pump will also help increase the blood flow to the penis and is a great tool to use right before you begin the penis lifts.  For anyone that orders a penis pump, or any other sex toys for men, we will email you a super charged way to do kegels that will greatly maximize your efforts!

Cockrings are most often used to make an erect penis harder and bigger, and to delay and heighten orgasm. They work by constricting blood flow and keep blood in the shaft of the penis. When a wearer finally does ejaculate, the sensation is more intense, since it took a longer time to come and because the penis is filled with additional blood.

A cockring should feel comfortable to wear and shouldn’t cut off circulation completely, just enough to enhance your experience.  Adjustable cockrings are the best to start with as you can tighten or loosen them at will.  The Soft Rubber Erection Ring is a great cockring for first time users.

There are metal, rubber, leather, and plastic styles.  If you choose a cock ring that is not adjustable, you want to make sure you get the right size.  One that fits too tightly could be hard to remove and could cut off circulation in the penis entirely, which is not the goal.

Metal rings can cause a rash or other skin reactions in some men, so this is something to consider when shopping around. Adjustable cock rings made of rawhide or leather straps are easier for beginners to use since the fit can be changed, and taking them off is more manageable. Avoid using cock ring substitutes; rubber bands, binder clips, and vices, for example, they could cause some very uncomfortable effects.

Cockrings fit over the shaft and the testicles/scrotum when a man is not erect.  Or, you can fit them just around the base of the penis, whichever is more comfortable and works for you.

To fit a cockring over your testicles and penis, Ball by ball, the testicles go through, then the penis shaft goes in head first through the remaining ring space. The ideal cock ring stays in place when the penis is soft, yet it can fairly easily slip off or unsnap when the penis is hard in case it becomes uncomfortable. Using lube is a good idea to help putting rings on and taking them off.

For safety and pleasure, a cock ring needs to increase the size of the erection only slightly. If you notice more pronounced swelling, then the fit is too tight. In that case, take the cock ring off immediately. It’s also vital for men to take off their cock ring at the first sign of pain or if the genitals feel cold. In addition, it’s dangerous to leave a ring on for too long, including wearing one to sleep when spontaneous erections are most likely going to occur.

Some cockrings have additional stimulating accessories, such as the Love Tapper Cockring, or cockrings that have vibrators or detachable bullets are incredible for both partners, like the Honey Bunny Cockring.  You can adjust the cock ring to where the vibrator offers the most pleasurable sensations for both of you.

If you are a man, get a cockring and practice with it by yourself when you masturbate to get used to how it feels and how to adjust it for a smoother experience with your partner.  If you are a woman, surprise your guy by slowly slipping the cockring on and starting with some oral sex to give him a thrill he won’t soon forget!