I’m sorry, but those reasons are based in ignorance.  It’s like taste testing food.  How do you really know if you’ll like it, or how well they’ll work if you won’t even try them?

Sex toys aren’t meant to replace a partner.  You can never replace human touch and intimacy.  Never, ever, ever, ever.  Well, they do help for masturbating, but that’s a different story.  Using sex toys with your partner is meant to enhance and increase pleasure, offer more satisfying orgasms, and deepen physical and emotional intimacy.  How can that be wrong or bad?

You also can’t become addicted to sex toys.  You may like them so much that you feel addicted to them, but you’ll still find yourself having lots of sex without the toys.  In fact, you’ll probably more sex as there is great pleasure in variety.   Sex toys definitely help give you a broader range of variety to have adventures with.

The best sex toys for couples are created through years of testing.  I would love to be on that testing panel.  I think in a way my husband and I are as we like to check out a lot of different toys since I work with them all day anyway.  I can’t tell you how much they’ve added to our sex life.  Even the most simple toys can pack some great pleasure.  Some don’t work at all for us, and that’s okay too.  The ones that work for us, well, it’s worth the “duds’ for sure.  The duds still offer us something to laugh about and deepen our intimacy as we further learn what works and what doesn’t for each of us.

My reccomendation is to get some sex toys and try them out.  What have you got to lose?  Perhaps a few dollars, but most toys can be purchased for pennies on the dollar and the experience itself can be priceless.  After you’ve actually tried them once or twice, then you can make intelligent choices and you might just find your sex life going to new levels of excitement!

The Top Three Sex Toys for Couples:

Here is our pick of “starter” toys that each couple should take the time to try at least once.

• A Cockring.  A cockring is created to give a man a stronger erection with some major lasting power.  His orgasm will be significantly more intense.  Overall, this is a win-win situation for both people.  Get a cockring that is adjustable, or super stretchy to start with and see for yourself how amazing it can be.  If you like it, try a cockring that has a vibrator attached to it too for some extra delights for both of you.  You can learn how to use a Cockring HERE.

• A Bullet or Egg Vibrator.  This are small powerhouses of vibration.  They can be used to massage both of you and are exquisite to adding new levels of sensation to oral sex on either one of you.  They can be inserted vaginally (We don’t recommend anal insertion of these vibes), you can then continue with intercourse with the bullet inserted as well and you’d be amazed at how much you both may enjoy this.  You can also use it for clitoral stimulation, or perineum stimulation during intercourse as well.

• A Dildo Vibrator.  Start with a small one that won’t seem intimidating. It’s great for foreplay on each other, or to use to help finish your partner off with if you don’t last as long.  Some women can’t orgasm without a vibrator.  That’s just how some women are physically wired and is exactly why vibrators were invented in the first place.  Try it and you’ll see what satisfaction and pleasure can be accomplished.

• Don’t forget the lube!  Most sex toys work best when you use some lube with them.  Even if you use no other sex toy, lube can come in handy time and time again.

So, let’s get honest.  We use tools for everything in life.  We use them to help make our tasks easier and more pleasant to accomplish.  Well, sex toys are tools, and they are toys.  They are tools because they will do things for you that you can’t do by yourself.  Kind of like you wouldn’t change a tire with your bare hands.  They are toys because they are FUN.  Doesn’t your relationship deserve at least a chance to try them?

Many other people will run to the store or their favorite online adult sex toy store, and grab the first vibe, and usually the cheapest they can find.  Then, they are dissappointed because it didn’t live up to the fantasy.   If that has happened to you, don’t give up.  Some people have to go through several vibes before they find the one that really does it for them.  Here are the tips to cutting through some of those trial and errors:

Set a fair budget for your first vibe

The cheapo vibes can be fun to use and throw away, but they don’t offer the feeling and quality that the higher end vibes offer.  Now, you probably don’t want to break the bank either.  There are many medium priced vibes that will give you top of the line quality.  So set a fair budget, say between $25 to $40 for your first vibe.

What kind of stimulation are you looking for?

A rabbit vibe will do it all and was made extremely popular by “Sex in the City”.  These remain the most popular.  They are made to insert and to stimulate your clit at the same time.  They pulse, vibrate and rotate for some delectable sensations.  It’s my belief that every woman should have a rabbit in her bedroom!

G-Spot vibes are shaped to really be able to reach that g-spot for some incredible stimulation.  If you aren’t quite sure though, you might want to save this type of vibe for when you are feeling a bit more advanced.

Bullet or egg vibes look like eggs.  They can be used to stimulate and insert.  They won’t feel like a regular vibe, but if you insert a bullet, and then insert a real penis, you’ll both realize some mind blowing sex that you may have never thought possible.

Traditional vibe.  A traditional vibe is a phallic looking vibe that is used for insertion, but can also be used for other stimulation.  It’s a great choice if you aren’t quite sure how or what stimulation you want, but just know you want to try it out.

Are you going to be using it solo or with your partner?

You can use the same style vibe for masturbating and with your partner.  But you might want to keep the color selection in mind.  Whipping out the “Big Daddy” vibe with your partner, might be a little intimidating.  Starting with a small bullet or even vibrating cockring to help introduce your partner to the idea and incredible sensations of a vibe might be your best start.

Should you buy online or in a store?

Many people prefer to buy sex toys online.  It’s more discreet, usually better pricing, and you can shop from the comfort of your own home.  Other people like to go to a store and look around.  Either way is fine.  If you are going to buy online, make sure you are buying from a reputable online store – like HappyHer.com for example!

Overall the best thing to do is just dive in, start looking around and pick one that you think might be fun to try.  Keep a sense of humor about it and if the first one doesn’t work out, try another one.  Don’t forget the batteries and lube!

Vibrator Myth Number One:

Myth:  A man should be able to make a woman orgasm with just his hands, tongue, or penis.

Truth:  Some women can’t have an orgasm with less than 3,000 rpm. No human tongue or fingers can generate that kind of vibration. “If the only way that a woman can achieve orgasm is with a vibrator, she’s not broken,” acclaimed sex educator, Tristan Taormino states.  “Think of a vibrator as your assistant, not your substitute. Many couples use vibrators together. “While you’re doing one thing, or two things, the vibrator can be doing something else,”

Vibrator Myth Number Two:

Myth:  You can get addicted to your vibrator.

Truth:  Okay, some of us can “feel” like we are addicted to our vibrators, but we don’t actually get addicted to them.  If you can achieve orgasm without them, you will still be able to achieve orgasm without them no matter how often you use them.

Vibrator Myth Number Three:

Myth:  A vibrator replaces the need for “real” sex.

Truth:  Absolutely not true.  Having sex with a partner fulfills many needs that a vibrator will never hold a candle to.  Emotional intimacy, physical affection from a warm body will never be replaced with a sex toy.

Now that we’ve cleared up some of the myths, let’s look at some ways to enhance sexual satisfaction by using a vibrator.

• Use a vibrator for foreplay. A woman needs a longer amount of time to warm up for sexual intercourse, using a vibrator will help warm her up faster and more thoroughly.

• Use a vibrator during oral sex. Having a vibrator for oral sex can really add some heat for a man or a woman!  Use the vibrator to stimulate her vagina, her clitoris, or anal opening while you orally attend to her.  For a man, use the vibrator up and down his penis, on his testicles, perineum and anal opening and he’ll be begging for more.

• Use a vibrator during intercourse. Most women can’t orgasm with intercourse alone.  Using a vibrator to stimulate her clitoris can really make it happen though.  Also, using the vibrator to stimulate him during intercourse, around his perineum or anal area will send him over the edge of pleasure!

Types of Vibrators

There are so many different styles and vibrators to choose from.  What works best for one person, might not do it for the other, and vice-versa.  Here is a quick run down of some of the most popular styles.  Experiment with the different styles to find the ones that will become your favorites:

• Bullet Vibrators are small multi-purpose vibes that are a favorite to many.  You can read all about them here:  How to Use a Vibrating Bullet Sex Toy.

• Penis or dildo shaped vibrators are created for optimum vaginal stimulation, the g-spot vibes add an extra benefit of stimulating the G-Spot.

• Rabbit Vibes were made popular by sex and the City.  They are phallic shaped vibrators that have an extension on them built to stimulate the clitoris simultaneously.  You can learn more about these at The Love of a Rabbit.

• MP3 Vibrators – YES!  Music lovers love these vibrators.  They vibrate on their own or along with your favorite musick on your iPod.  Learn more about these here:  We Will, We Will, Rock You!

There are also vibrating anal toys, cockrings, sponges, and more for just about every sensuous adventure you can imagine embarking on.  For pictures and more details on even more types of vibrators, check out this glossary.

Learn how to care for your vibrators by reading Take Good Care of Your Vibrators!  Stock up on some lube and batteries and have fun!

If 29% is accurate, this is an outrage for women everywhere!  Let’s get those numbers up Ladies.  The health benefits alone are significant enough to make pursuing them a most serious pursuit.  The more, the stronger the better!  The Health Benefits of Sex explains these benefits.  Improve Your Self Esteem through Sex explains more benefits.

We also just recently found out that women’s IQs will raise with every orgasm that they experience.  Imagine the possibilities! American scientists, who continually study sexual possibilities of homo sapiens, discovered that the moment of orgasm creates a very large number of chemical reactions and physical changes in the body. The speed of blood circulation reaches its maximum pushing oxygen-enriched blood all through the internal organs, including the brain, very quickly.  This specifically includes the Hypothalamus that governs the work of learning and memorizing centers.

With all that said, let’s talk about how we can get that orgasm average up!  Now, while we would hope our lover will be able to magically induce us to climax, reality sets in and we come to the conclusion that we need to own our own orgasm.  A much higher percent of women can orgasm through masturbation, oral sex, or other manual stimulation while they can’t reach that big O through intercourse.

An even higher number of women will climax with a vibrator where fingers, tongues, and penis’s alone couldn’t do it for them.  It makes sense at this point to get a few toys and start to experiment.  Try different techniques, speeds, pressures.  Stimulate your clit and discover your g-spot which also helps create some mind blowing orgasms.

Add a little lube as well as feeling dry is not comfortable when stimulating such sensitive parts of yourself.   Also, if your clit is too sensitive for direct contact, try to stimulate the area around it instead.  Here are some of the favorite toys to use for clit stimulation:

• Waterproof Soft Touch Bullet
• Double Bumpy Bullet
• Venus Butterfly
• Krystal Wabbit

What works for one women, may not work for the next, so try out several toys to discover what really does it for you.

When it comes to sex, don’t worry about being relaxed or “in the mood” first.  Just do it.  Sometimes sex when you are totally stressed will offer an explosive orgasm and relieve the feelings stress leaving you feeling wonderful.  As far as being in the mood, the mood will come when your senses are stimulated.

After you’ve spent some alone time with your vibrator, share your discoveries with your partner.  Your lover will absolutely love watching you pleasure yourself and will be able to learn what you need at the same time.  If you are too shy to put on the show, then just hand them the vibrator and tell them what to do with it.

Try using the vibrator while you have intercourse and also try different positions that will stimulate your clit at the same time, either manually with your/their fingers, or riding on top or in a position that allows you to rub up against your lover the way you need to feel it.

Orgasms, for health, happiness, and they even make you smarter.  You get so much for something that feels so good!  I hope you all decide to up your orgasm quotient starting today.

Talk about pressure.  Don’t we have enough pressure just knowing our sweeties are going to be expecting something from us?  Besides, any holiday that has a baby with wings, shooting people with arrows, should be light hearted, fun, and sexy!  Save the “Super Bowl” idea for weddings or anniversaries, or better yet, the Super Bowl itself.  Why take that away from the football fans?

Let’s keep Valentine’s Day what it is.  An opportunity to show some love.  Here is a quick guide for some great gift ideas no matter what stage of your relationship you are in:

Brand New Relationship:

So you’ve been dating long enough to be celebrating this day, but not long enough to be too presumptuous.  You want to keep it light.  Here are some great picks for you:

Dazzling Stretch Hearts Bracelet. Always remember that women are like crows, we love bright shiny objects!  This bracelet is adorable and will melt her heart if you put it around the neck of a darling plush stuffed animal.

Team the gifts with flowers and chocolate for the finishing touch and watch while her heart melts!  Keep the roses white or pink, or just a single red rose is best.  Too many red roses at this stage is too serious.

Newly Intimate Relationship:

So you’ve been together for a bit and have just started to get intimate.  You still want to keep it light here, but can ramp up the seduction.  Here are some great picks:

A cute Babydoll would be the perfect lingerie gift.  It’s still on the innocent side, yet definitely sexy and a good hint at what’s to come later!  One of our favorites is a lace and sheer babydoll.

Edible Candles. Set the mood for romance with these edible candles.  As they melt, they turn into massage lotion that is SO tasty.  The perfect way to explore each other’s bodies!

If you are practicing safe sex, stock up on the condoms.  Several varieties are Buy One get One Free.

Get red roses and chocolates to complete the gesture.  Hand feed each other the chocolate!

Fully Involved Relationship:

At this point you can’t keep your hands off each other, or maybe your all ready settled in and should be keeping your hands all over each other the way you “used” to.  The sky is the limit here!  Take your pick of the sexiest lingerie, in fact get her a couple outfits and let her model them for you at her leisure.

It might be a good time to gift her with some toys!  Try one of the sexy games to open new doors for exploration and get her a good vibrator.  Don’t forget the lube.  No matter how long you’ve been together, keeping things spicy is easy when you use your imagination.  Have fun and pick something you aren’t sure about and something you know she’ll love.  This is a great time to try new things.

Red roses and deep dark chocolates will finish this gesture off perfectly!

Kinky Relationship:

Go for something hot in leather or vinyl.  Get some new restraints and perhaps a delicious new collar and let the games begin!  If you want to get kinky, but not quite sure how kinky she’ll go, get a furry cuff kit and tease her into submission.  Or put the cuffs on yourself and let her find you helpless and waiting for her sweet torture.

Roses and chocolates are still the perfect finishing touch here as well.  Deep reds and purples will keep with the passionate theme.

Most Important!  Remember that Cupid is a horny little Cherub, not a Super Bowl Coach yelling on the sidelines. So relax and have fun and don’t forget to treat yourself to something sexy while you’re at it!

You can go rock and roll, hip hop, punk, whatever your flavor of lively music, for some earth shattering orgasms.  Or how about some lovely goth or jazz for a slow melt after a busy day?  These vibrators actually vibrate to the beat of your music.  They all also come with the option to use alone without your music too, making them two vibrators for the price of one.

These glorious pieces of technology work with laptops, home stereos, portable CD players, microphones, electric guitars (Just imagine that!).  Virtually any electronic audio output source with a 3.5mm jack if ripe for exploration.

Here are the MP3 Vibrators you can choose from:

NaughtiNano Ipod Vibrator
The Naughitnano measures five and a half inches long, four inches insertable, and has a one and one eighth inch diameter at its widest point.  It’s made from premium grade hypoallergenic non-toxic, non porous ABS plastic with a PU coating with chrome finish detail. This product is phthalate free.  Read more about it HERE.

Ohmibod G Spot Vibrator
This G Spot vibrator measures seven inches long and has a one and one eighth diameter. This product is phthalate free.  Its hot pink curves, satin finish and chrome detail is designed to hit that magic G note in all of us!  Read more about it HERE.

Ohmibod Music Driven Vibrator
This silky smooth vibrator Measures five and a half inches long and has a one and one eighth inch diameter.  All the OhMiBod vibrators comes with an additional multi-speed endcap for use without an iPod or music player.  Read more about it HERE.

Vibro Pod Digital Music Butterfly
This soft, flexible clitoral butterfly is Phthalate free and features stimulating nubs and incorporates suction with a simple handheld pump to increase the pleasure to toe curling levels!  A safety release button removes suction instantly.  It’s four and one quarter inches by two and three quarter inches.  Read more about it HERE.

Vibro Pod Digital Music Stimulator
This bullet style vibrator includes two interchangeable Rubber-Cote bullets.  You can use this alone or with other stimulation for an out of this world experience!  Read more about this HERE.

Vibro Pod Digital Music Vibe
This soft and silky vibrator is five and half inches with a one and one quarter inch diameter.  It’s Phthalate Free and has light indicators and is multispeed.  Read more about it HERE.

Get in the groove like never before with any of these MP3 vibrators!  You’ll experience your music in a brand new way over and over again.

Vibrators run on small motors that often burn-out when left on for a long time. A typical play time of 20 to 30 minutes should keep your motor from burning out.

Batteries also are a major part in taking care of vibrators. When batteries are left inside they often leak and cause corrosion inside the battery compartment. Then the vibrator needs to be thrown away. Batteries should be removed after usage and before cleaning. You should make sure that water does not get into or remain in the battery compartment so there is no chance of rust.

Cleaning a vibrator is a must after every use for your safety and the toys. Proper cleaning depends on the material of the toy. Glass, hard plastic, and acrylic toys can be cleaned with anti-bacterial soap, toy cleaner or even rubbing alcohol. More porous toys, such as Cyberskins need the most care for protection. They often can keep bacteria trapped in its materials. Using warm water with a toy cleaner should clean off any bacteria. Cyberskin toys can often melt other items stored near them; their color can run off onto other items or melt holes through a Jelly toy that is close by. To store the Cyberskin toy you need to dust it with cornstarch and keep it in a storage container, airtight bowl or some type of zip-closed storage bag. Silicone toys can be easier cleaned with soap and warm water or some waterproof ones can even go in the dishwasher.

Always clean your toys and all them to dry completely before storage. Storing them while they are wet can cause them to rot and would need to be thrown away.

Inevitably, vibrators weren’t meant to last forever, but with proper care they can last for many years. The easiest way to keep toys clean is to put a condom over them. But condom or not you should always keep things clean to protect yourself and your toys.