• “I don’t like my body.” What are your options here?  It’s your body, you are living in it.  You still deserve pleasure and so does your partner.  Make a plan to do what you can about your body, and learn to accept what you can’t change.  Stop worrying about what your partner thinks.  They are with you, so there must be something they love about you.  Go for the love with full gusto, I promise, your partner isn’t as concerned about your body as you are.  Wear sexy lingerie to cover up a bit if you must, but do it with the lights on and see for yourself how much fun you can have, regardless of whether you are a perfect ten or not.  Besides, self confidence is the ultimate sexiness, it surprisingly has very little to do with your looks.

• “I’m afraid to lose control.” I’m sorry, but so what?  Really.  I am not being mean, just very curious.  So what if you completely lose control in front of your partner?  Don’t you think your partner would be ultimately turned on knowing they could do it for you to the point of no return?  Life’s short.  Let loose.

• “I’m afraid my partner will lose respect for me.” Well, I guess communication might be a good place to start with that one.  Honestly, I know men that have mentioned if women like a particular thing, then that means they are a slut.  Those men are just plain wrong and so are women that think a man is “gross” or “sick” to like certain things.

Here is the real scoop:

Our bodies have a mind of their own.  They like things.  Sometimes you notice your body getting turned on by things that even repel you, but your body still feels excited anyway.  There is no sense making out of that, it just IS.  It doesn’t make anyone “wrong”, “sick”, or “slutty”.  Now, the way you act on what excites your body might cross over into the “sick”, or even illegal category, but you don’t have to act on those things, and for the sake of a shorter read here, we aren’t going to address the extreme or highly illegal fetishes.

Use your common sense.  Tell your partner “I don’t know why, but for some reason when I think about _________ I feel turned on.”  Then talk about ways you might be able to experiment with whatever it is that leaves you feeling lusty.   If your partner wants to put you down for your feelings, refer them to this article.  Better yet, let me email them.  I’ll be happy to talk some sense into them!

• “I’m afraid I’ll look weird or make embarrassing noises.” If this is the case, I want you to go out of your way to look weird and make embarassing noises.  Do it with a sense of humor and adventure.  “Let’s see how weird we can make each other look, or make me make that vagina fart noise honey!”  What do you think your partner would say if you suggested that?  Do you think you might be able to have a hilarious good time and laugh a lot at each other?  That sounds like a blast to me.  Give it a try.  You might find looking weird or making embarassing noises can be great fun!

• “I am too busy or tired.” Well, dear, why are you scheduling yourself out that way?  The truth is people make time for what they feel is most important to them.  It sounds like this is a case of misdirected priorities.  You are not a victim of your own life, so rearrange your schedule so that it gives you more time and energy for one of the most important parts of your relationship.

Now there are obviously other issues that might leave you sexually frustrated.  If one or both of you have health issues, that can create some challenges in your sex life.  Make sure you are seeing your doctor and doing everything you can to overcome or manage your health issues to the best of your ability.

Perhaps you and your partner are having other issues such as arguing over domestic or parenting responsibilities, or finances.  Maybe it’s just that you don’t like how your partner does it, or you would like for them to do something that they aren’t currently doing and you don’t know how to tell them.  In all of these cases, find a good counselor and work through those issues.  Sitting around complaining about them or having on going fights about the same thing over and over is not going to help you figure them out.  Get an outside professional to help.  If you can’t afford it, then email me, I’ll work something out with you that won’t cost you a dime.

Whatever issues you are having that is leading to sexual frustration, stop complaining and do something about them.  Your health, your partners health and the state of your relationship depend on it.  No one wants a blue light special romance.  We all dream of unbounded passion and true love.  What are you waiting for?  Stop making excuses today and start giving yourself and your partner the gift of true love and passion.

AL-15-1007, Allure Leather Vinyl Shorts.

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AL-11-2077, Lace Up Back Vinyl Corset

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Leather lingerie and vinyl fetish wear are always the wickedly seductive choice for club wear, fetish wear, and just plain sexy fun wear!

We’ve picked some of the favorites and knocked 25% off the price to help you replenish your wardrobe with some fresh new eye candy.  These leather and vinyl pieces are of the highest quality materials and made with the female form down to a science.  Pick out one outfit, or several, you’ll love the way you feel and look!

Here is what you can choose from:
Studded Leather Teddy
Leather High Neck Lace Up Teddy
Leather Chain Teddy
Leather Fishnet Lace Up Diva Teddy
Capped Sleeves Leather Buckle Bustier
Leather Front Lace Fishnet Teddy
Leather Break Away Bustier
Leather Mesh Hook Eye Bustier
High Waist Leather Skirt
Leather Front Break Away Skirt
Leather Bustier with Rivets
Leather Corset with Frogs
Leather Cincher Corset
Leather Five Zip Corset
Leather Lace Up Full Back Bustier
Leather Chain Fringe Set
Leather Fishnet Bra Thong Set
Leather Fishnet Babydoll
Leather Bustier with Snaps
Leather Bra with Ribbon
Leather Bra G String
Leather Two Piece Set
Vinyl Mesh Bridal Set
Vinyl Bridal Four Piece Set
Vinyl Bridal Teddy Veil
Vinyl Heart Two Piece Set
Racy Red Vinyl Lace Up Shorts
Vinyl Scoop Neck Lace Up Bustier
Candy Pink Vinyl Bikini
Vinyl Bustier with Silver Trim
Vinyl Skirt with Silver Trim
Vinyl Industrial Edge Set
Leather Metal Hook Diva Corset
Full Lace Up Diva Leather Corset
Leather High Neck Lace Up Diva Teddy
Vinyl Mesh Diva Bridal Set
Studded Leather Diva Bra
Leather Diva Bra

Sweetest Day is quickly approaching!  We at HappyHer.com believe every day should be Sweetest Day, but for those of you that put extra emphasis on this day, we would like to help you make it the most romantic occasion ever!

Sweetest Day started right here in beautiful Cleveland, OH, in 1922 by Herbert Birch Kingston.  Herbert was an Ohio philanthropist and candy company employee. He wanted to bring happiness to orphans, shut-ins and the under-privileged. His intent was to show these people that they were not forgotten.  He kicked the day off by giving candy and small gifts. He often used movie stars to distribute the gifts.  Today, Sweetest Day seems to be geared towards romance and HappyHer.com has put together a Gift Guide to get your creative juices flowing!

• Pick out a great outfit from our Lingerie Collection Sets to provide a complete outfit to give or wear for your partner.  Many of them come in one size that fits most beautifully, so you can’t go wrong on choosing the right size.  You might want to pick something from our leather or vinyl collections as well.

• After a delectable dinner, slip into the new lingerie and watch a steamy adult DVD movie together!  Our soft porn DVDs are sure to please and get you both in the mood for a sexy time!  Or try something from our Fetish DVDs if you like to get wild and crazy together.

• Try out some new sex toys that you can both have a great time with!  Our sex toys for couples include kits like the Bedroom Party Pack that is jammed full of toys that you are both sure to love.  Don’t forget the lube while you’re at it.

• For an extra special treat, get a gift certificate for your partner as well, they will love to shop at the store and pick out their own sexy lingerie, adult movies, or toys to surprise you with.

• Remember the chocolate!  The Chocolate Fantasy Body Toppings are a luscious way to share desert!

This Gift Guide should give you some erotic ideas for you and your partner to explore together!  Remember to order by October 10th to make sure your gifts arrive in time!  Or, get a HappyHer.com Gift Certificate anytime, they can be emailed and used immediately.

Whether you prefer vinyl or leather pants, teddies, thongs, skirts or corsets, the tantalizing feel of these materials leave you feeling erotically pleased and gorgeous! There are intimate pieces for sexy playtime, or gorgeous outfit pieces for day wear or evening wear.

Allure leather is based in Canada and due to raising gas prices, and the current state of the American dollar, the manufacturer is being forced to raise prices effective September 11, 2008. HappyHer.com will honor our current pricing of Allure Leather products until that date.

We will also add some gorgeous new leather pieces, including corsets from them later in September, so stay tuned for more information!