What are some ways one can be considered extraordinary. Eric Von Markovic once said say one interesting thing and what you said was interesting, say ten interesting things, the person saying those things become interesting. Work on using your best quality to shine and control your conversation. If it’s humor be funny, if it’s intellect be smart, and so on. Once it comes time to leave and you want to keep contact with the person this is when most inexperienced people freeze.

The butterflies that were there when you first sparked a conversation are back and you have to fight that to get the goal. There are no ways to land every number every time or else i’d have nothing to write about. My best practices are as follows…

1. Let the other person give you their number, that way you don’t feel like you look like a creep.

2. Play with your phone a little bit, it will calm you down a little bit as well as put the phone number in their head.

3. If they don’t have the idea say something to lead them on such as ‘it would be nice to talk like this again’ or ‘I enjoyed your company we should do this again.’

4. Put your personality into it, don’t stick to one line or routine the whole time.

Once you have the number you stepped into a whole new world. What are the new rules, and what is the best thing to do while texting or calling? This topic can literally be put into a book but don’t worry I will write a full article geared totally towards texting and calling.

If someone wants a guaranteed better social life then the best thing he or she can do is practice. Go out and start conversations with everyone, attractive, young, old, short, fat, skinny it doesn’t matter. Once you get better at the dynamics of social interaction and conversation you’ll be able to react to people that you want to meet a lot more smoothly.

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Once you do this, you need to hook them with something good. The best things are asking for advice, a half-assed compliment or a story. You can’t just walk up and say any story that comes to mind. It has to be something that either can involve them or someone they know.  The half-assed compliment could be anything from nice shirt to nice butt depending on how balls-y your feeling. Asking for advice is the best as it is non-threatening and involves them. Once you have them hooked this way you can move to a few different social skills. The purpose of the time after the opening line or topic is to show the person you’re talking to why you are better than anyone else they can talk to. Try to stay away from small talk and try to say things that not everyone will say. If you start small talk what makes you different from everybody else there?  Say something that will bring attention to you and shows a good quality or trait about yourself.

Some examples would be interesting conversation, good joke, or small flirting. You don’t want to push too hard but you do want to push a little. You are the best thing there, and they need to know that. This works well with males and females. There is an entire off-shoot community based off of this for males, but they haven’t been able to figure out how to teach social dynamics for females yet. The reasons for this are males are too big of judges of physical appearance and girls who were asked what they want to see physically in a guy said clean shoes. The reason they said clean shoes is because clean shoes shows that not only are you more than likely clean, but you either have money or clean your shoes, which not many people especially single guys take the time to make sure their shoes are squeaky clean.

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This is a huge thing if you want the target to drop his/her guard with you. Most places can’t do this because bigger cities such as New York and San Diego it’s impossible to know everyone, but once the target understands that you’re universally socially accepted she/he becomes much more comfortable with you.

Things you can do without social proof to make it seem like you are insanely popular are kind of limited. What I do is tell epic-sounding stories. Stories that show a strong and good characteristic that you have and feel like it should be portrayed are the best way to humbly show that you rock. Lately though, I haven’t been polite like that. I find it is better to be loud, a little egotistical and rude. I’m not preaching that assholes finish first but here is a situation that happened to me where I exuded social proof.

I was bored one day when a friend called me up and asked me to meet him at Starbucks. I agreed and made my way there, upon arriving I noticed a very attractive blonde and brunette sitting inside. I made my way in and sat down right next to them.

“Hey, I need the female opinion on something real quick, I gotta get back to my friends real quick.” I then pointed to a huge group of people implying that I was there with all of them. “My friend Bryson and I are having a debate, is it better to approach girls and beat around the bush like ask what time it is, or is it better to just come up and say you look like someone fun and cool that I would like to get to know.” They both responded with it depends on what kind of a guy it is. They said some guys would be ‘creepers’ others would be acceptable. I then asked where I stood. They both said I wouldn’t be a creeper because I came with so many people. This is an example as to how having friends help you with the opposite sex. If enough people accept you and hang out with you why wouldn’t they? On the opposite side if enough people don’t accept you why would they?

Editorial Comment:  Words of Wisdom from HappyHer.com’s newest writer, Angelo Togliatti.  Use his suggestions this week and let us know how it works for you!