Lissa Rankin, M.D. is a practicing gynecologist and she has written an article about vaginal rejuvenation surgery that I wanted to share with you all.  Hop on over to her blog and read Vaginal Rejuvenation Surgery: The Horror, The Horror now.  It’s a great read if you have a vagina or just really love them (Read, for both men and women).

When you are done reading that, come back to the HappyHer.com Blog and read about natural ways of toning and tightening that doesn’t rely on surgery.  Sexual Workout for Better Sex includes tips for the men and the ladies, and Kegel Exercises for Women will give you a great routine to get started with better vaginal health.

One of the most common complaints we hear is that one part of a couple isn’t satisfied with the amount of sex they get to have with their mate.  So, we thought we would list out some of the most important things you can do to have and maintain a happy sex life with your partner.

How to Have a Happy Sex Life

Sex needs to be kept a priority. Many times life gets in the way.  We have jobs, kids, a mortgage, and other events that pull our attention away from creating a wonderful sex life for ourselves and our partner.  Some people shy away from scheduling sex, saying it’s not sexy if it’s not spontaneous.  But scheduled sex can be very exciting.  You have a chance to plan and prepare, you can spend time before hand leaving each other suggestive messages about what they might be in store for during your sex date.

Keep sex exciting. Even if you are very conservative and not into “kink”, you can still find lots of things to do to keep sex from getting boring.  Try stretching your limits a bit and explore new ideas.  Take turns finding new things to try with each other and new ways to turn each other on.  Read a book, watch a movie, email us, there are tons of ideas out there.

RELAX! It’s life, we all live it, and we aren’t going to get out of it alive.  We all have our own issues, work problems, family issues, money issues, it seems like every day has some new challenge.  Stress, anxiety and fear are some of the biggest libido killers.  Nip them in the bud, even if you need professional help in order to get these three things under control.  It’s worth it to know how to live life in a relaxed and joyful manner, and THAT’S sexy!

Come to terms with your body. Many of us get to the point where we are embarassed for our lover to see our body.  We insist that the lights be kept off and do everything we can to keep them from seeing how flawed we are.  The sad part of that is it’s all bullshit.  Turn on the lights and if your lover has an issue, it’s THEIR issue, not yours.  In the meantime, you can do what you can to get and stay in shape for yourself to feel better about you, but don’t allow your sex life to suffer just because you are too critical of yourself.

Take care of issues. We ALL have issues, and unfortunately many issues seem to effect our sex life.  Whether it’s past
sexual abuse, low self esteem, or issues with our lovers, we need to work those issues out.  Don’t be afraid to ask for help.  Many people are hesitant to get counseling because they feel it’s shameful or too expensive.  But look around your area or online, many therapists will work with you at an affordable rate.  You can also look into support groups for victims of abuse.  Those are free and have lots of people ready to help support and encourage you to feel better.

Granted, if you and your lover are having issues with each other, then both of you have to be willing to work through
them.  The secret here is many times a lover doesn’t understand how issues outside the bedroom can effect issues inside the bedroom.  But they do, and they need to be worked through.  Learning how to negotiate with your partner will help SO much with this.  Notice I said negotiate and not compromise.  Never compromise.  You’ll both lose.  Negotiate until you are both happy with the negotiations.  The Golden Key to Unlocking Your Soulmate Relationship works wonders for couples looking to work through issues and get back to good loving.

See a doctor. Get a checkup if you feel your sex drive is low and there is no other explanation.  Sometimes, especially
as we age, our hormones need some help.  You won’t know if you don’t talk to your doctor.  Be careful of medications
that will lower your sex drive as well and ask your doctor what you can do to help alleviate that symptom so that you
can maintain a happy sex life.

Keep yourself aroused and in the mood. Do whatever does it for you, as long as it’s in line with what’s acceptable within your relationship. It’s truly not up to your partner to do all the work to make sure YOU are turned on, you gotta do some of that for yourself.

Turn yourself on.  Some people get turned on by wearing sexy lingerie, other’s like sexy movies, and books.  Porn is a very popular way, but sometimes it’s an issue.  Discuss that with your partner first, but at least books or magazines should be acceptable.  There are all sorts of turn ons from music, to dancing, to even gardening, or working out.  Find out what your turn ons are and pursue them avidly.

Keep the mood set. A clean, inviting home and bedroom helps create a welcoming environment for sex.  Seductive
smells like vanilla, sandalwood, pumpkin pie spice are all aromas that invite sensuality.  Keep your bedroom free of
clutter, family pictures (Come on, how sexy do you feel when little Junior’s face is smiling out of that frame?), old bed
clothes are so not sexy.  Make it a point to keep your area prepared for lovin’.

I hope these tips have helped to get your creative juices flowing.  With a little time, attention and effort, there is no reason why the two of you can’t maintain a happy sex life for years to come.  If worse comes to worse, make sure and do it sometimes too even when you aren’t in the mood.  Your partner deserves the health benefits and you never know,
sometimes you’ll have incredible sex after you’ve decided to do it regardless of whether you feel like it or not.

I’m sorry, but those reasons are based in ignorance.  It’s like taste testing food.  How do you really know if you’ll like it, or how well they’ll work if you won’t even try them?

Sex toys aren’t meant to replace a partner.  You can never replace human touch and intimacy.  Never, ever, ever, ever.  Well, they do help for masturbating, but that’s a different story.  Using sex toys with your partner is meant to enhance and increase pleasure, offer more satisfying orgasms, and deepen physical and emotional intimacy.  How can that be wrong or bad?

You also can’t become addicted to sex toys.  You may like them so much that you feel addicted to them, but you’ll still find yourself having lots of sex without the toys.  In fact, you’ll probably more sex as there is great pleasure in variety.   Sex toys definitely help give you a broader range of variety to have adventures with.

The best sex toys for couples are created through years of testing.  I would love to be on that testing panel.  I think in a way my husband and I are as we like to check out a lot of different toys since I work with them all day anyway.  I can’t tell you how much they’ve added to our sex life.  Even the most simple toys can pack some great pleasure.  Some don’t work at all for us, and that’s okay too.  The ones that work for us, well, it’s worth the “duds’ for sure.  The duds still offer us something to laugh about and deepen our intimacy as we further learn what works and what doesn’t for each of us.

My reccomendation is to get some sex toys and try them out.  What have you got to lose?  Perhaps a few dollars, but most toys can be purchased for pennies on the dollar and the experience itself can be priceless.  After you’ve actually tried them once or twice, then you can make intelligent choices and you might just find your sex life going to new levels of excitement!

The Top Three Sex Toys for Couples:

Here is our pick of “starter” toys that each couple should take the time to try at least once.

• A Cockring.  A cockring is created to give a man a stronger erection with some major lasting power.  His orgasm will be significantly more intense.  Overall, this is a win-win situation for both people.  Get a cockring that is adjustable, or super stretchy to start with and see for yourself how amazing it can be.  If you like it, try a cockring that has a vibrator attached to it too for some extra delights for both of you.  You can learn how to use a Cockring HERE.

• A Bullet or Egg Vibrator.  This are small powerhouses of vibration.  They can be used to massage both of you and are exquisite to adding new levels of sensation to oral sex on either one of you.  They can be inserted vaginally (We don’t recommend anal insertion of these vibes), you can then continue with intercourse with the bullet inserted as well and you’d be amazed at how much you both may enjoy this.  You can also use it for clitoral stimulation, or perineum stimulation during intercourse as well.

• A Dildo Vibrator.  Start with a small one that won’t seem intimidating. It’s great for foreplay on each other, or to use to help finish your partner off with if you don’t last as long.  Some women can’t orgasm without a vibrator.  That’s just how some women are physically wired and is exactly why vibrators were invented in the first place.  Try it and you’ll see what satisfaction and pleasure can be accomplished.

• Don’t forget the lube!  Most sex toys work best when you use some lube with them.  Even if you use no other sex toy, lube can come in handy time and time again.

So, let’s get honest.  We use tools for everything in life.  We use them to help make our tasks easier and more pleasant to accomplish.  Well, sex toys are tools, and they are toys.  They are tools because they will do things for you that you can’t do by yourself.  Kind of like you wouldn’t change a tire with your bare hands.  They are toys because they are FUN.  Doesn’t your relationship deserve at least a chance to try them?

Marriage. living together,  having a significant other, seeing each other and no one else, those are all forms of monogamy.  When a person falls deeply in love, or at least deeply into infatuation, monogamy is a no brainer.  You simply can’t imagine sharing that energy with another person.  But it isn’t always like that, sometimes monogamy is a choice that’s made despite some major temptations or personal issues such as intimacy issues or low self esteem.  That’s where monogamy becomes a challenge and starts to lose the shine, and sometimes turn into something so negative, that people don’t even want to use that word anymore.

Even still, there are many benefits to monogamy and it’s still a highly pursued choice made by most of the population today.  Marriage rates are up and divorce rates are down, so even though monogamy seems to be loaded with negativity, love, romance, passion, marriage, and relationships seem to be on the upswing.  The Bridal Industry is booming and the trend is still to find “The One” whether you are a man or a woman.  Research has shown that monogamy is a mainstay and even though we love to hate it, we’ll continue

How Monogamy Leads to the Best Sex:

I’m sure you’ve all heard that remaining in a monogamous relationship will increase your health and life span, enable you to have a more stable financial future, provide a more stable family life, blah, blah, blah…  But have you stopped to consider the opportunities of increasing your passion in a monogamous relationship?

• Monogamous couples have more sex.
• You learn each others bodies just as well or even better than you know your own.
• Trust grows and inhibitions relax.
• You learn exactly how to turn each other on.
• You are more invested in the relationship, so you try harder.  When you try harder, you are assured of better results.
• Performance isn’t something to stress about because you know if you make a mistake, you’ll get another opportunity.
• You are more apt to try new things and find new ways to stimulate each other, bringing greater intimacy.
• You learn more about yourself with your monogamous lover than you’ll ever learn with anyone else in your life.
• Sex becomes a soul deep activity, an expression of your true inner self, not just a bang.  Although the opportunity for a quick fuck is still there too.  So, you get the best of both worlds.

I know many of you at this point, especially if you are in a long term monogamous relationship may be questioning these benefits.  Maybe you feel left to wonder why you aren’t experiencing them in your own relationship as much as you’d hoped.  Perhaps there are issues that have come between you and your partner’s ability to create the passionate life together as you had originally envisioned or experienced during those first throes of new love.

Issues such as weight gain, infidelity, addiction, children (Children are a blessing, but not for your sex life!), health issues, or resentment issues can throw a wrench in even the most loving of relationships.  In fact life seems designed to keep your focus off each other and on immediate day to day events such as careers, extended family, hobbies, etc.

Regardless of the issues you face though, I believe that your relationship can become everything you ever dreamed it could be – and more.  In fact I’ve seen it happen time and again, even from relationships that were on the brink of total failure.  These couples went from zero to total heros, and it’s totally possible that your relationship can do the same.

HappyHer.com is diligently working to help monogamous couples and singles looking for monogamous relationships every single day.  We are looking to provide more help in way of pursuing a passion filled life and we would like your assistance.

We have created a quick nine question survey.  It’s free to take and your information is kept strictly confidential.  You won’t be signed up for any junk email, it’s just a quick survey to gain insight into your opinions on monogamy and the skills you feel are required.  This will be a great help to us in the future for designing some specific ways to help every monogamous couple live a life of passionate pursuit.  Take the survey HERE.

Start Small

Pulling out Big Daddy Dong and going for it as if it’s a glass of ice water in the middle of Death Valley is probably going to be extremely intimidating for you and your partner for your “first time” with a sex toy.  Start with something small and on the more conservative side.  A bullet vibe is usually a great first choice, or a cockring for the men.  Don’t worry about going all the way with it the first time you get it out.  Just play around a bit with it, put it aside and pick it up some other time and slowly build with how adventurous you want to become with it.

Use the Surprise Element

“Guess what I brought home to play with Honey?” is a fun surprise.  Use the sex toy on them first.  A vibe can be used on a man partner without penetration and feels incredible if you combine it with oral or manual stimulation.  Rub it right underneath their testicles or lightly play with it all over them.  When they see how good it feels, they may want to return the favor.

Give it to Them to Use On You

Hand your sex toy to your partner and let them know you are really curious about what it’s like.  Let them know that you’ve heard so much about how sex toys can really help couple’s add some variety and spice to their sex life, that you just want to check it out.  Then let them figure out how to use it on you.  You can let them know what feels good and what doesn’t, or make suggestions like “Try this, or try it that way”.

Remember, you don’t control what your body likes or doesn’t like, your body has it’s own idea.  It’s honest and open to let your partner know what your body is feeling.  There is no room for embarrassment if you are approaching it in a more scientific way.  For example, your foot hurts if it gets stepped on and it feels good if someone rubs your shoulders.  Are you in charge of that?  Of course not.  You are not in charge of your bodies sexual responses either.  You are only in charge of how open and honest you are going to be about what your body responds to and doesn’t respond to.  Work at deepening the openess and honesty in your relationship by allowing your partner to know how your body feels during sex toy play, or any other physical activities for that matter.

Be Playful!

Have some fun, using a sex toy isn’t brain surgery.  Have a sense of humor and don’t be afraid to laugh or tease with it.
Bring out your sex toy to your partner and say “Honey, if this sex toy was you, here is what I’d want you to do to me.” Then show them what you like.  “I would want you to touch me here, like this”, and “I would want you to do this to me.”, while physically showing them.  For one part of that, your partner is going to get way turned on by the visual, for the second part, you are making it about them which will help take the focus off your feelings of embarrassment.

So, to sum it all up, be creative, start small, and keep your sense of humor.  Sex toys are fun, it’s why they are called toys.  You don’t have to start using them every time you have sex.  They are meant to enhance sex, not replace what you are all ready doing.  So, relax and have some fun.  You may find that they open the door to whole new levels of intimacy and sexual satisfaction for both you and your partner.

Tracy Morrow is an Energy Psychology Practitioner, Reiki Master Teacher, and Intimacy Specialist specializing in Conflict Resolution. In her years of coaching, she has specialized her field to include sexual enhancement as a means of increasing overall health and fully attuning mind, body, and spirit in order to reach true intimacy within love relationships.  She is also a writer at the HappyHer.com/blog and a coach for the 101 Day Sex Challenge.

Join us for “Too Busy for Sex? Think Again!” on April 21, 2010 at 8pm EST where we’ll be talking about this topic.  You’ll get some amazing tips to help take control back of your sex life and be able to make more time for intimacy with your partner.  And also have the opportunity to also have your own questions answered.

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Too Busy for Sex? Think Again! is a free webinar that will run for about 45 minutes to an hour.   We’ll be covering some great tips and strategies for you to implement in your life and get results right away.

You’ll also receive some valuable coupons and we’ll hold a random drawing for a $25.00 gift certificate.  But the true value is in learning skills to take your relationship to a new level.

You will learn:

• How to make time for sex if you have young children
• Find out the surprising link between sex and work
• How to communicate your desire for more sex with your partner
• How to ask for what you specifically want that you aren’t getting
• How making time for sex benefits the whole family

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I wanted to write this article while my fingers are still burning from jalapenos.  This is a must serve dish for anyone that is planning a romantic meal!  Now, the measurements aren’t specific, and please, feel free to option out of whatever ingredients you don’t care for, but try to stick as close as you can to all the ingredients listed.

Orgasm Stew Recipe

Ingredients

• 1 1/2 Pounds Boneless Skinless Chicken Breasts
• Large Can Crushed Pineapple
• Juice from one or two oranges
• Pepper to taste
• Ginger to taste
• Soy Sauce to taste
• One small can chicken broth
• One small can tiny shrimp
• One small can crabmeat
• One chopped green pepper
• One medium sized chopped jalapeno (Don’t add the seeds!)
• One chopped Onion
• Several cloves of chopped garlic

I started early and put the chicken in a crockpot, added pineapple juice, fresh squeezed orange juice, a bit of soy sauce and a ton of pepper as I really love pepper!  Then this slow cooked all day.

I then removed the chicken breasts and put them in a 13×9 inch baking pan and started 3 cups rice and the juice from the chicken (I also added a bit of chicken broth to make up to 3 1/2 cups liquid), and let the rice start to cook.

As the rice was cooking I chopped one onion, one green pepper, one jalapeno, and a few cloves of garlic.  I tossed those in a pan with a couple tablespoons of olive oil.  When the onion started to soften I added some soy sauce and about two teaspoons of ginger and kept the heat on high.

Then I added crushed pineapple, about a cup and a half, drained and a few twists of Himalayn pink salt.  You really don’t need salt at all, or just minimal as the seafood will be pretty salty as is, but the little bit of pink salt that I added gave a great edge.  Next, came a small can of drained tiny shrimp and drained crab meat.  Last was about a cup and a half or so of ham chunks.

I added all of this, except for the chicken and mixed really well.  I then put this mixture over the chicken breasts and threw in the oven, covered for twenty minutes at 350 degrees to allow all the flavors to really meld.

Why do I call this orgasm stew?  Well, you have to try it for yourself.  Serve with some french bread, real butter, soft music and lighting.  Don’t forget the beverage of your choice.   Of course wearing some really sexy lingerie, and little else, will also help “set the mood”.

This is an aphrodisiac packed meal that not only tastes absolutely awesome, but will put you both in the mood for something extremely decadent for dessert – like each other.  With of course a drizzle of luscious tasting lube!

Does that sound crazy?  With all the porn showing sexual ecstasy, millions of books sold, millions spent on counseling to overcome sexual problems in marriage, not to mention the sexual pharmaceutical industry.  Our world revolves around sex, it’s everywhere.  We wouldn’t be here without it.

We all long for that sexual expression that is rarely ever experienced.  And, it just sounds insane that when it boils down to it, most of us don’t want to do the due diligence having truly great sex requires.

The greatest sex requires vulnerability, trust and a willingness to completely open up to your partner.  An orgasm is great, but when it’s the best sex, it can create emotionally overpowering feelings that many of us are simply too scared to allow ourselves to experience.  Or, we simply don’t trust that our partner will be there for us on that deep of a level.  The thought of risking any level of rejection at that point is too much for some people to want to put their neck out for.

Truly great sex requires the willingness to lose control.  That is a challenge for many people as well.  We are ashamed, embarassed, or just scared at what will happen if we truly let go down to the deepest core of ourself.

So, we keep buying into the idea of wanting great sex, but we’ll only allow it to go so deep.  Then, we are left wondering why we still have that nagging sense of not feeling completely fulfilled.

Many times in relationships, the sex stops because the partner is hurt, they don’t feel safe and don’t want to risk feeling vulnerable when they don’t trust that their partner has their best interest at heart.  For women, and men too, but especially women, that feeling of surrendering our all to our lover is something we crave and long for.  But if we aren’t getting the basic emotional requirements met outside the bedroom, there is no way in hell we are going to allow for it to happen in the bedroom.

Now, I’m not knocking superficial sex by any means.  There are many benefits to sex no matter how you are getting it.  But this is about mind blowing, earth shattering, soul deep sex, that many of us will never experience.  I think that’s a true shame.  But, we won’t allow it because we just don’t have the personal fortitude or emotionally supportive partner to be able to truly allow it to happen.

So, what are you going to do about that?  Are you going to go for it, risk your all for an experience that could very well change your life and your relationship for the best?  Are you going to learn how to communicate your needs and work with your partner to have those needs met?  Are you also willing to look at your partner’s needs and do what it takes to show them that you are that partner that’s going to be a safe person to let it all go for, to possibly lose all control and lay shuddering in the midst of something you only thought was possible in fantasies?

In the end, it’s up to you and your partner to work out.  But the shocking truth about great sex is that many of you just simply don’t want it.  It’s easier to stay on the fringe, taking the edge off by watching porn, masturbating, or pursuing some sexual fun with your partner that is emotionally risk free.  But, what if you and your partner agreed to take a deep look at it, to make each other feel emotionally safe, and then to throw inhibitions to the wind?  What then?

If you visit the dentist before there is a problem, chances are there won’t be a problem to start with.  If you wait to go until you have a toothache, you might need to have a cavity filled.  If you wait until after your tooth stops hurting, you may need some serious help to save the tooth – if it can be saved at all.

Wow.  I never thought I’d compare sex to going to the dentist.  The point is to stop waiting until that perfect moment to have sex.   Sex improves your physical, mental and emotional health on many different levels.  It decreases risks of cancer and heart disease, especially in men.  Besides that, it feels good and can be some of the most fun you could ever have.  Read the Health Benefits of Sex and you’ll be amazed at what a healthy sex life can do for you!

Top 6 Reasons People Aren’t Having More Sex

No Partner

Do it solo until you do find a partner.  Masturbation is a healthy outlet and while it doesn’t carry all the benefits of sex with a partner, it still has some potent benefits that you wouldn’t get any other way.

No Time

Make time.  People make time for what’s important to them.  Make having sex something that’s important to you and stop using the excuse that you are a victim of your schedule.

Too Tired

Many of us are overscheduled to the point that we are sleep deprived.  This is a scheduling error.  Re-prioritize your time so that you have more time to rest.  Take turns with the kids in the evening so that you can both take a 20 minute nap after work.  Or, have sex earlier in the day when you still have some energy.

Get creative and do what you need to do in order to feel more rested.  Not just for sex, but for your health and happiness as well.   Stop playing the victim in your own life, you do have choices.  Choosing to pursue a better balance in your life to have energy for something as important as sex is something you can do if you really try.

Not in the Mood

The funny thing about sex is that if you start doing it when you aren’t in the mood, you’ll find that somewhere in the midst of it, you’ll become in the mood.  Plus, “Sexy is as sexy does.”  If you are having more sex you’ll naturally begin to feel more “in the mood”.  Get sex toys, sexy lingerie, watch sexy movies, whatever you need to help feel sexier and get yourself in the mood.  If it can help create a stronger bond between you and your partner, it’s worth it’s weight in gold.

For the single people, it can help you find a partner as you become more attractive when you are in tune with your own sexual nature.  Really.  I had a friend that would masturbate before hitting the clubs and was like a total babe magnet, on nights that didn’t happen, no one paid attention.  Try it for yourself!

Body Image Issues

You’d be surprised how many people aren’t having sex because they don’t feel good about their bodies.  Maybe you are one of them.  Start using sex as a way to get back into shape.  Your partner will be happier, you’ll be happier and having sex is a most excellent way to get into shape.  Oh – and your partner all ready knows what you look like, so stop trying to hide from them.   Chances are high that they will love being your sex workout coach!

Not Happy with My Partner

Whether you are not happy with your partner in the bedroom, or out of it, this is the biggest reason many people aren’t having more sex.  Define what it is that you are not happy with your partner about and get it resolved.  If you aren’t having more sex with your partner because you are not happy with how you and your partner “Do it”, then show and
tell them exactly what you need for them to feel sexually satisfied.  Communication is the key and chances are your partner will be willing to help you if you are open about your needs.

If it’s because of issues outside of the bedroom, address those too and make sure you aren’t with holding sex from your partner as a way of punishing them.  Seek outside help if you need to.  Start having sex while you work through the issues.  A huge number of the couples I work with noticed that the problems outside of the bedroom were easier to work through, or went away on their own, as they proceeded to put their sexual relationship as a top priority.

Don’t let prejudice, shyness, or ignorance keep you from experimenting sensually with your partner.  Look at it as a relationship saving, possibly even life saving event, that the more you do, the better benefits you get personally and as a couple from it.  Get started on a more sexual lifestyle today.

The first thing you have to do is know your bride-to-be’s personality, likes and dislikes. A wild child isn’t going to enjoy a spa day party and a conservative cookie would be mortified if the male strippers showed up or she is coerced into wearing a “Suck for a Buck” shirt. So, the first thing is to determine where her heart lays.

Start slow. Get everyone together at one person’s house. This is where you can give gifts, have appetizers or dinner and even do mini-makeovers to get ready for the rest of your night. If the party is to stay home for the duration, then make sure there is plenty to do. Party games, movies to watch, food to eat and beverages will be needed. If you are headed out, plan to go to places you normally don’t go and arrange your designated drivers if drinking is going to be involved.

Think outside the box. The most memorable parties are going to involve some sort of activity that you believe the bride-to-be might really enjoy, but hasn’t done yet. The wildest events I’ve heard of involved body piercings and tattoos, but that’s only because the maid of honor was certain it was something the bride wanted. It could be as simple as a new party game, or as involved as going on a mini vacation or cruise. If you have a house party and male strippers are out of the question, bring in a psychic, or some other live entertainment for something extraordinary.

Give creative gifts. Save the bridal lingerie for the bridal shower. Instead, get more risque. Give sexy gag gifts, vibrators or items for the sexiest honeymoon ever! Have some gifts on hands for the guests too. Fun gag gifts include pecker whistles or pecker pens. These gifts can really help break the ice if you are having a party where a lot of the people don’t really know each other that well.

Make sure you plan this event in plenty of time. Make reservations, send invitations, and have the decorations, gifts, and any other details completed by two to three weeks before the event just to make sure you have everything you need.

The most important rule though is to have a blast! Chances are if you are the one in charge of planning the event, you know first hand what the bride-to-be will be thrilled and surprised with. This is her last big hoopla event as a single woman. By adding those personal touches you are going to send her into wedded bliss with style and creativity.